Hi
I wanted to share my tips from all that I’ve learnt the hard way from being in an inter cultural marriage and I just hope it helps someone avoid the same mistakes
Tip 1: Meet your SO family FACE TO FACE. I regret not doing it and meeting my MIL only five days before my wedding and never meeting my SIL until we married. They were nice over video call until I finally met SILs family and they started being disrespectful and racist. To this day I regret not meeting them face to face to know their true colours
Tip 2: If there is disrespect/ racism see if your SO stands up for you. My DH didn’t stand up for me so I blocked them. I wish I met them sooner so I could have left him as my BF but now married with a kid, it’s harder.
Tip 3: Language issues: Gosh! My husband is the translator (so annoying)
Tip 4: Cultural nuances: His mean hurtful jokes are part of his culture, wish I knew that before
Given a choice, I would have found someone local. I have learnt to hate my cross cultural marriage and I only wish I had realised all of it sooner.
Good luck!