Lonely as a single parent

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How do single parents deal with the weekends alone?

I’ve been seperated from my ex husband and son’s father for 1.5 years. Stupidly fell straight into a relationship with a friend which turned into a confusing situationship. I’m now trying to hold my boundaries and end it for good because once again I’m just not being chosen by someone I love.

So my weekends without my son have been filled seeing this guy which I’m now putting a stop to. Sundays are the longest and loneliest days. I’ve been sat on my phone all day which doesn’t help, went for a run and sorted the house a bit but I just feel so lost. No friends to spend time with as they all have families or in relationships, I’m close to my parents but they are abroad right now.

I’m in therapy but have really reached rock bottom this weekend. I can usually find a positive thought or something to focus on but just haven’t managed it today.

Any tips for managing this lost feeling as a single person appreciated

How about you start some kind of project you can focus on; a small business, volunteering, redecorating a room, writing a book or blog, making crafts, etc?

I’m a single mum and although I do now have a lovely boyfriend (despite not looking for one at all) I sort of miss the days where I could go on a half-day solo hike, spend all afternoon on Pinterest planning a bedroom overhaul, lie in the bath with face and hair masks on reading uninterrupted or wandering around an art gallery or museum looking at the pieces I’m interested in for as long as I want.

For me that was a time to be utterly selfish with self-care, which was important as my ex only has the kids every second weekend (which I’m fine with as I would miss them so much if he had them 50/50).

Your single time is unlikely to last forever. Instead of thinking of it as a phase to “get through”, maybe try thinking of it as a time to be utterly self-indulgent?

I agree it does help having single mum friends. One of my friends who is divorced is child free on the same weekend as me. We don’t meet up half as much as we should but we chat in the phone and what’s app a lot. I don’t feel lonely on weekends as I have my dp but I think if I didn’t I would need to fill them up.
Some ideas I’ve looked at as need to not have a life centred around dp and dc is a local walking group where they mix the group and walks each week so you get to walk and talk to different people. Not as exciting as a clubbing tour but good for finding some companionship. It’s important to have adult conversation in some shape or form. I also usually try making new recipes and this might be perfect excuse to invite a nice mum from school or a neighbour for a meal. Hope you are ok xx

Been where you are and it gets better I promise you , what do you want in life ? Start there I asked myself that same question and it's alright if you do not know yet it will come you'll figure it out a big part of how your feeling you might find relates to how you view you , ex you were a wife and a mum and that was your life now that your free to be you it's hard to know what or whi that is and later on you'll realise finding you was the best part I wrote down little goals of things I wanted out of my life small and manageable at first then the biggy was complete change in carreer buy because I had built up enough faith in myself over time the thoughts of you can't turned into who can't and I surprised even myself guess my point os you can do anything in this life fond you and do what makes you happy the time to you for you will feel alien especially with everything you've gone through but you got this 😊 ps stop beating yourself if your having a crap day let it 2moro is a new one be careful how you speak to yourself the brain will believe what you tell it 🌸

I’m a single mum and definitely agree it can be isolating and hardworking on your own. I’ve even been trying to research house sharing with another single parent but it feels hard to connect with others with a similar outlook. I shared before I had my son and with the right people it great!
Also the app frolo is a great resource… it’s all single parents so no judgements from any trad families!! It just to be free but now is £4.99 a month for both the community and dating sides. It’s a great way to meet other lone parents in your area and they arrange meets up - with or without child!
Theres lots of us out there… we just need to reach out and find our community 💚
We are amazing as single parents with so much grit and determination - our children are lucky to have us 🤩 🔥💕