Is anyone there at this awful time of night??

[Upsydaisy1]

Only my husband, soulmate and father of my two children dc4 and dc 11months has walked out and left us. I am terrified and don't know what to do next. I feel like my heart has been ripped apart. We've been together 16 years and I can't remember life without him. Where do I go from here. My head is in a daze and I feel sick

Hi Upsy, I'm so sorry- I had it happen to me 4 years ago. How long ago did this happen?

Oh, upsydaisy, I'm sorry

It happened to me too.

About 7 hours ago! I am a total state of shock and don't know what to do. I dread the thought of being a single parent. I am devestated that the man I love could have done this to us all and while he's gone off to console himself somewhere I am here with the children trying to muddle on.

Do you know why he left? Was it another woman ? (doesn't sound like it was from your post). Hope not.

Don't do anything. You are in shock. See what happens over the next few days.

It is a huge adjustment when the person you loved more than anything else in the world leaves. Your world is shattered. But people survive. It's not easy, we don't choose it, but we manage, just about.

Maybe when things cool a bit, you'll be able to talk and work out exactly what has happened and what you can do. But for now, take care of yourself. That's all you can do.

No I don't think anyone else was involved but you can never be certain. I will get back to you tomorrow with more details as I really must try and sleep Baby will be awake in 3 hours - hooray!

Sorry, that sounded very bossy and uncaring. I didn't mean it to sound like that. Do you have anyone in RL to talk to? Or to help you with the children?

No it didn't, UR, it was sound advice. Please get back to us tomorrow and let us know how things are with you, Upsydaisy. Sincerely hope it will look better for you both in the morning

Hey Upsydaisy, no wise words but I hope you have managed to get through the morning ok xxxx

You need to tell real people too - your family and friends - make sure you have real life support too and someone to help with the children - do you think it is just the enormty of another baby coming along that has scared him?

Hi Upsydaisy, I am so sorry that this is happening to you too. My husband also left me on Monday night. We have been married 10 years nearly and together for 14. He came back from a business trip in China the previous Monday and told me he doesnt feel the same anymore or love me. I have two LO's too, age 8 and 4. If you want to read my post there is some fantastic advise on there www.mumsnet.com/Talk/7/509214

I really hope that get some answers from him and all the help you need. I am still none the wiser really as to why my husband decided to go

Big hugs to you, keep strong

CGM xxx

Hope you are having some rest - impossible with little ones but maybe. Just wanted to say like one earlier, maybe it's best to just take it steadily for now you must be in shock. Maybe it's possible he is in shock after walking away from you all is it possible he may be wanting to come back. There are other MNetters better qualified to talk to you than me. But wanted to let you know that we want your message not to get lost if you need MN they have come through so often for me so come back to your message if you can.

How are things today, Upsydaisy?

Thinking of you, and hoping you are okay.

Sorry to hear this UpsyDaisy, sorry to hear of your situation. Did you manage to get a bit of rest? I'm sure you'll find the support you need on MN. Make sure you do look after yourself and eat and rest!