I've put lighthearted because I'm not asking for advice, just opinions and experiences
We dated for 2 years before getting married. I thought I'd met someone like me, similar tastes and ambitions
Both 2nd marriages and both in our 40s
20 years later and everything he 'was' has gone. He's a different person.
He was outgoing, sociable, into music and travel, he was vibrant and adventurous.
But over the years I have learned that this was a veneer. I've learned that he was only acting and he wasn't really like this deep down.
When I asked him about it he said that in the beginning he went along with whatever I wanted to do so as not to lose me.
For a bit of context - I married a man who liked live music and loved going to gigs. At home we chose music over the TV. Now I have a husband who says he doesn't like music at all.
Is this very common? For someone to pretend they like something so you'd be more interested in them?