Advice needed. Ive been in a relationship with my partner for 8 years. I looked at his phone and saw an email from an ad he had placed on a site "looking for a male c**k to pay with possibly go further" I am shocked and total devastated as I had no idea. I know I need to ask him but how do I go about it. I know he'll deny that he is bi or gay and say he posted it as a joke with his friends, but I know he was on his own with no friends with him that day. He'll just make a massive argument about why I looked at his phone. Do I ask him and keep pushing till he tells me that truth or do I ask him and wait to he accepts his sexuaility. I gave up a lot to be with him and think now he just saw me as a cover. Our sex live is non existent as he claims to have a bad back which he does, but he hasnt touched me in years and now I realise why. I cant sleep or eat at the thought of this conversation. It is absolutely killing me emotionally. Please help