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It's a porn one

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toolittletimeagain · 29/06/2024 19:43

I feel a bit shocked about this, maybe I'm a prude but bf and I were in the living room, my phone was charging in the bedroom and I was using his phone to Google presents to buy my friend for her bday. I went onto the Google browser and the search history came up - 'woman anal sex', 'milf big tits', 'Nina Hartley' (porn star).

We don't have anal sex and he has never expressed a desire to. When we do have sex he always talks about my 'big tits' but I'm actually a B cup and now I think when we do have sex he is just imagining the porn he has watched rather than being present with me. Obvs I asked him about all of this and he says he doesn't want to do anal and he was just 'intrigued' about how it works (?) and that he does think my boobs are big. I think he is bullshitting.

What's really weird is that he also googled 'help I'm fucking my brother in law' - he said this was a 'dear Deirdre' thing and he couldn't be believe it was true so he googled it. AIBU to think he's lying? I feel like I don't really want to have sex with him again now.

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kkloo · 29/06/2024 21:28

OP a B cup can be a pretty decent size depending on the persons shape and size and their individual boobs. Someone people have B's that look tiny and some B's are pretty big!

Beautifulbythebay · 29/06/2024 21:30

Could he have been checking if Deidre had gotten his letter? Have you got a db op??

WalkingaroundJardine · 29/06/2024 21:36

sprigatito · 29/06/2024 20:08

Lots of women on MN have no problem with porn and are happy for their partners to use it. Some of them will call you uptight for objecting to it, and jeer at the idea that there are men who dislike it (of course there are).

Only you know whether porn is a dealbreaker for you - it certainly is for me, because it's about basic values, the centrality of consent and plain old misogyny and objectification. The deceit and general sleaziness would only compound it for me, since I'd be out anyway - but the important thing is, how do you feel? You are allowed to have moral standards that differ from his, and to organise your life according to your values rather than his.

Yes, this. The ubiquitousness of porn and increasing hatred against real life women for not being for sexually available, being too uppity etc are connected in my view.

VeryStressedMum · 29/06/2024 22:48

Well you're allowed to not like porn or watch but also he's allowed to like it and watch it. He (most likely) won't stop watching it so you'll have to decide if it's something you want to deal with

WildeChild · 05/12/2024 15:24

Lol..look put it this way ,I've.been celebrated for 10 yrs,( I'm seriously ill & can't cope with the hassle )and if anyone randomly looked at my browsing.history of would have anything on it from vegan cookery ,Renaissance art ,hard core punk,folk music to lesbian sex ( real ) ..I.wouldn't be hung up like we are all reading each others questions & giggling at SOME answers on here it doesn't mean we're all.perverts & it doesn't mean your husband is either ..As for your breasts ,does he make you feel desired? Does he tell you you're sexy?..then your breasts are perfect as they are grinning YOU & him xx

WildeChild · 05/12/2024 15:26

Wonder if she makes Hartley 's jam or related to.Hartley hare? 🐇 lol ( a daft joke for UK folks over the age of 50 there ) 😉

WildeChild · 05/12/2024 15:30

What is ' normal ' ?

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