Sister is a b*tch but now wants to play happy families

[regretnot]

My sister is always take take.. admittedly she is going through the hardest time right now, her husband has left and she has 2 kids..

she has strong support from my mum.. who helps with childcare / overnights etc.,

she has never been what I would call ‘nice’ to me - only when she wants something, very cynical I know..

all of a sudden she wants to see us/my family/stay/play happy families but in the past has been a total b*tch to me..

has let her kid and ex husband steal from my house, taken things herself.. never supported me through any hardship..

im struggling as to how to move forward.. its strange like now she wants to know me/us.. she makes it ALL about her kids all the time, even before her husband left.. lives in her own selfish world taking what she can..

also worth noting her son isn’t nice to my DC and we have to keep an eye on the dynamics at all times..

How do I manage this? Anyone been in a similar position?

thanks

I think I’d just refuse, just because she’s going through a hard time, I don’t see that you’re supposed to just ignore previous horrible behaviour. De plus, if her dc upsets your dc, then definitely no.

If you must see her could you meet up on neutral ground so you have an exit if things aren't going well.
To be honest I don't think I could play nice with someone who has stolen from my house or whose children stress kids in their own home.good luck on what you decide.

I feel guilty not sure why

At the most you could do 'bare minimum'

Yes she's had a shit time,but she has treated you horribly in the past.

Keep your distance if you can

No need to feel any guilt at all

Avoid her and her kid like the plague. You are not her therapist or whipping post.