So me and my daughters dad (7 months old now) had a up and down relationship, he was always open and honest after the arguments that he enjoyed my company and wanted to spend weekends with me but didn’t want a title on it. I used to obviously be upset about this, we’d spend every other weekend together and more when we could (he has kids from a previous relationship and so do I) so the weekends we didn’t have the kids we’d spend together. He’d stay Friday-Sunday and we’d go for food etc and enjoy each others company. By the time I was 8 months pregnant I deeped how I didn’t want this anymore, just felt abit used and unworthy of the relationship title so told him intimacy wouldn’t be happening moving forward. Due to being later in the pregnancy and him not wanting to miss the birth he still stayed when he could and respected me on this. After baby we agreed he’d stay here whilst she was so little, he’s been a real hands on dad and always the first to get up to do the night feeds. We are now 7 months down the line and everytime I mention about him having her at his he gets upset about it, almost like he doesn’t want me to either have my free time or the fact he doesn’t want the weekends without me involved. I dunno. I’m in no rush for a relationship and I’m seriously so busy I don’t think I’d even have the chance to meet somebody anyway, he works 12 hour days in the week and has his sons every other weekend, the weekends he don’t he spends with me and our daughter, we do everything we did before without the intimacy part and even share a bed when he stays. This is the maddest part
I’ve now accepted that this is just how it’s going to be, we get on like a house on fire and it is now. Is it wrong now that I want the intimacy side back when he stays? How do I even approach that without sounding wild
I don’t want him to think to be able to stay that has to happen but at the same time I genuinely feel like it’s the only thing I’m missing in my life. Sounds awful but I’m 25 with a high drive
What would you do? Lol