Sister is always take take take

[regretnot]

My sister is always take take.. admittedly she is going through the hardest time right now, her husband has left and she has 2 kids..

she has strong support from my mum.. who helps with childcare / overnights etc.,

she has never been what I would call ‘nice’ to me - only when she wants something, very cynical I know..

all of a sudden she wants to see us/my family/stay/play happy families but in the past has been a total b*tch to me..

has let her kid and ex husband steal from my house, taken things herself.. never supported me through any hardship..

im struggling as to how to move forward.. its strange like now she wants to know me/us.. she makes it ALL about her kids all the time, even before her husband left.. lives in her own selfish world taking what she can..

How do I manage this? Anyone been in a similar position?

thanks

*also I must point out that her oldest son isn’t nice to my DC and we have to keep a close eye on the dynamic..

If you're feeling kind you could meet for coffee / meals out / whatever. No need to have her in your house if she takes things.

Can’t stand thieves. Why does she want to know you all now?

Stealing from family is the lowest of the low -
The fact your Sister is having a hard time is not your problem to fix.
Dont be guilted into allowing her and her son - who you state isn’t nice to your child back into your home, she doesn’t sound sorry (unless it’s for herself)
I can’t see how you would benefit from allowing her to cause chaos in your lives , she sounds toxic.

Meet up away from your house - park, cafe etc.