I’ve met a sweet man through a mutual hobby. He’s warm, kind, fun and would do anything for me. We’ve been friends for around two and have grown close.
I’m a Christian and have had only one relationship which was my ex husband. I’ve got grown up children and I live on my own. This man respects my feelings and does not push me about moving what we have forward.
He’s self employed and generous with his time and money. He works hard to please me and we enjoy each other’s company. We are 50/60s.
when I met him he was renting in one place but had move as someone burgled his place and stole a lot of money.so he moved to another flat. He’s been married twice before and has two grown up children whom he hasn’t seen for 10 months…I guess they’ve drifted apart?
I’ve never met his family, friends or children but he’s met mine and comes to my home but never stays over I’m not ready for that yet. He seem’s very much alone before he met me, his life is a mystery to me and I tell him so!
Recently there was a problem where he lived and he had to leave and was sleeping in his car until a mutual acquaintance offered him a room in her home and he’s been there since.
I pushed him a bit to sort his finances out from his second marriage which will take months/a year. I’ve no idea about his finances or where he lived previously. I feel it’s not my business as we sort of, living for the now. I’m settled in my life and he’s sorting his out, slowly.
A friend met this man about year ago and told me to be careful as he thought this man was a chancer…I took no notice, then I had a phone from a person recently who knew this man through his line of business and told me various things that did worry me…not criminal but telling me he’s a scammer, can’t be trusted, very critical. I mentioned this to him and he denied it all and seemed upset. I don’t what to make of it.
Recently he has started to get a little ‘hot and heavy’ (if you know what I mean) and I exp;aired again that I have certain values and that I’d like him to be settled financially but could we just carry on as we are?
He seemed a bit miffed and told me that he didn’t want to see me anymore, he was hurt and upset and felt he’d been ‘mugged off’. He rang me the next day, furious, emotional and very upset I never seen him like that before. He’s to;d me he’s been aggressive with people if they upset him in the past but never with me, until now.
it’s gone a bit sour. We are now talking but I’ve seen a side of him I didn’t like.
I don’t want to be cynical but I do have my own place and he’s in one bedroom in his late 50’s I’m just wondering if he had another agenda?
what do you guys think?