What do you do when you cannot afford to leave?

[savethatkitty]

I have seen many, many posts from women who stay in shitty marriages for the children and for financial reasons. I myself am one of these women.

I work full time and I am a decent earner - I had a good chunk of money before marriage, which I have been dutifully adding to for over a decade, so one would say I have a good amount of savings.

Despite this; with rising house prices, I simply cannot afford to buy! I am also not entitled to any benefits etc, due to being a good earner. Fair enough, I don't need it. The real kicker, I have also been rejected HUNDREDS of times from private rental applications, as I have no previous rental history (military family, so have always lived in accommodation provided by defence). Despite providing bank statements and offering to pay rent one year in advance, I am still rejected!

I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I am simply stumped! What do other women do in my scenario? I am trying to get out, but it seems so close, yet so far away.

My solution - Win the lotto lol

How old are your children?

almost 13 and almost 18

Could you afford to buy in a different area? Would relocation be an option?

Any canals nearby? Could you afford to buy a house boat?

Have you offered 6 months’ rent up front (in addition to deposit etc)?

Yes! I even provided bank statements to prove I could afford to pay upfront. The rental market is so ridiculously tight. People are being forced to live in tents as they cannot secure a home

I wish! I would definitely consider relocating. Unfortunately, the housing market is ridiculous everywhere! I have looked in different states and different cities, but I have to consider job prospects and also my kids. It just never seems to align

I'm in the same position , but I'm not an high earner but have savings , rental companies don't want to know...can't see anyway out tbh.
I feel for you, I hope you can find a solution and move on with your life...

Thanks, you too. It is so frustrating, surely there has to be a solution.... I've spent years planning an exit, but just as I get close, the goals shift.

Are you in the UK? Can you ask advice from CAB?

also I know a lot of people who have rented through word of mouth rather than adverts. They get places when they have been rejected elsewhere

Get in touch with the Royal British Legion. I'm sure they would be able to offer advice.