Why would a ex keep a belonging that you left ?

[LexiAllen]

my friend left something in her exs car after they hooked up. He told her she left something in there and she told him she wanted it back. He agreed to give it back but it’s been weeks and he still hasn’t ???

why do exs not give back things ?

Punishment.
Because they’re a twat.
To be awkward.

Forgot
Lost it
Ate it

Not had time to pop it round yet? Can’t be arsed? Who knows?

Has she actually arranged to collect it or she expecting him to sort it for her?

I was wondering the same. Is he prohibiting her from collecting it, or have they just not arranged to exchange it? Ie. Him not delivering it to her, or her not collecting it?

Can she not go to his and collect it?

It was perfume she left in his car. At first she told him to toss it and he said okay,…. Then she asked if he still had it and he said yes, she then asked if he could drop it off sometime anywhere, and he said yea.

So she’s annoyed that he hasn’t gone out of his way to drop something off with her? She could go and fetch it if she wants it that badly (although if she was desperate for it, why did she initially tell him to chuck it?)
Not sure I’d be going out my way to deliver something back to my ex, that he’d left in my car.

If she left it there the onus is on her to collect it I would have thought? It’s not like she loaned it to him as a favour and he needs to return it. If she wants it she needs to go and get it at a time convenient to him.

What would you both like us all to say op?

That's he still madly in love with her, splitting up was the biggest mistake of his life, and that he sprays a tiny bit of perfume on his arm to help him fall asleep at night.

Move on. Stop thinking about it.

Dropping off something an ex had left in my car wouldn't be top of my to-do list.

Maybe he thinks she left it on purpose so she would be able to see him again and he can't be arsed to be drawn in.

Doesn’t really sound like a priority for either of them. Or they’re both waiting for the other to make the first move.

She left something in his car. She should be the one to pick it up.

If an ex left something at mine, I wouldn't go out of my way to give it back (unless it was something I'd used/borrowed/asked for). I'd expect them to collect it.

I wouldn't be 'keeping' it, just not bothered enough to make the arrangements to return it because it would have no impact on me either way.

She should arrange to pick it up. Or get a pal to go to his house to pick it up.

I imagine he can't be arsed. Why should he? She's an ex and not a priority, particularly as she initially told him to chuck it.

He's probably done so and forgotten all about it. It's not a big deal is it? She should just buy another bottle.

Who knows or cares ? It's only a bottle of perfume ... hardly the Crown Jewels .

An ex boyfriend left a book with me once, it was a long time ago and I honestly can't remember who finished with who but we were close friends, not just boy/girl friend, for many years and I kept hold of the book as a reminder of happy times ... he subsequently died and that book meant a lot to me.