I've just left abuse whilst pregnant.

[ZoeSxx]

Hello..
please no judging comment or put downs

I'm really trying to stay strong & crack on..

I'm 4 months pregnant. With 4th baby.
3 children from previous relationship (teenagers)

My new relationship seemed very healthy for all of us. For years. I kept my own house for security for the kids. Thank god now. They've always been first.

My recent partner totally turned & became so abusive. Jelous, hot & cold, calling me names, putting down my job, my parenting skills, my looks. You name it. He even told me not to disturb his sleep when I was very unwell & sick in early pregnancy. He's just cruel. I've cried a lot.
Anyway.., left him. I've blocked him on everything but I'm still getting the no caller ID everyday. I'm getting emails still abusing me telling me this is why I'm alone.
I answer nothing. I am silent.
However, he's started knocking on the door. I ignore it.
But how long can I ignore.
What do I do next

You call thepolice for this abuse and harassment, change the locks, install a ring doorbell and an outside security camera. You keep the emails but send them to your spam box. Stay strong, you and your children deserve a happy and safe life. If the teens are at school I would inform the school too just in case he starts bothering them. You could get a new phone or change your number,

Firstly, well done.
You’ve put your dc first.

If he keeps harassing you call the police. Yes they’re busy but you’re a vulnerable pregnant woman.
Log every harassment, he needs to be stopped.

If it's your house then he has no right to be there.

Call the police Op and keep everything he’s sent as evidence of the harassment towards you.
do you have a ring doorbell cam so you can record how many times he knocks the door?

Im really glad you left him and I hope you get the help and support you need.

I agree with most of this - but don’t send the emails into spam, they usually delete after a couple of weeks. Put them in a separate email folder because you might need them as evidence for not just any criminal matters but potentially family court issues.

You may also want to call Women’s Aid for support.

Good luck OP, and well done for leaving him.

Good for you for leaving and not putting up with his abuse.

Send one email telling him you will contact the police if he does not leave you alone and then revert to silence and ignoring him.

Keep all your communication from him as evidence of his harassment.

Do not answer the door and make sure your doors are locked at all times. If he has keys to your house then change the locks.

The next time he knocks on the door call the police.

If you have warned him you will contact the police and he persists then you should take that very seriously. You are in most danger from an abusive man when you try to leave them.

Be careful that he doesn't try to doorstep you as you are leaving or returning home.

You thought you knew him but he became abusive quite suddenly do not underestimate the risk he presents.

Good luck.

When you are ready, you need to check in with a domestic violence refuge. Next, you need to go to the court and take out a safety order and then your local police station so that they know what's happening, so that you have them on board if there's ever trouble.

Arrange for all communication to happen through a third party. Especially since its obvious he's ignoring the fact you want him to stop ringing you. Do what MissMoneyFairy says and make sure he can't get into the house and get a video door bell or at least don't answer the door to anyone you are not expecting. Have your teenagers briefed also on what to do if he ever approaches them and make sure the school knows he can't pick them up. You're doing great by the way and are on the right track by the sound of it. Remember to look after yourself too. one day at a time. If you can, relax with it and settle into the process. What you're experiencing happens more often than you might think. It might take awhile for him to get the message, sometimes a few years 🙄

No advice, but well done.

Bloody hell @ZoeSxx, you’re bloody brilliant.