OH and I split up last year. Small village crap and others interfering. Ended up with me being incredibly hurt by other people’s behaviour and him not supporting me. It still sits in my mind.
Fast forward 3 months later and he tells me he misses me, that he made mistakes, that he got rid of the toxic people in his life.
I asked if he had been with anyone else in the time. He said no.
We got back together in August last year. Everything was great, I had worked on myself, he had worked on himself. It was better than what we had before.
In February, he told me he hadn’t told me the truth, there had been someone else, it was only once, it didn’t work out and he used a condom. The next day we were at a party and she came up to him and started a bit of a row in front of me.
I don’t know how the conversation changed the other night but it turns out it wasn’t once with a condom but 4 or 5 times without.
I am mad that he lied to me. I was diagnosed with HPV 2 months after we got back together.
I don’t even know if I would have got back with him had I known the truth. What makes it worse is she was one of the people in the small village that was bullying me along with her friend.
I’m just lost. Part of me feels it is unreasonable to feel like this because we weren’t together at the time. On the other hand he lied and I have to build up trust again.