Is this love bombing? How to handle it?

[Sundaycoffee]

Chatting to a guy online for past week and a half. He calls me "beautiful" pretty much everyday. We have not even met yet. Is this a red flag? He's 40.
Other than that I am enjoying the conversation,but the constant you're beautiful, you're stunning compliments feel a bit disingenuous. I want to continue talking to him but how do I get him to chill out a bit without sounding rude?
I joked earlier about wishing I looked 21 again and he replied saying "you look perfect already" 😩
And has twice said xyz person thinks you're beautiful (mates of his). So he's obviously showing my pictures to other people too.
Where do I go with this??

It would be a red flag to me, pretty obvious what he is after

No its not. Maybe it's his culture.

You haven’t even met yet, it’s ridiculous

It doesn’t appear to be a red flag as such. Although, l can see why it may feel a bit much.

At first I thought he was using 'beautiful' as a sort of pet name, quite a few guys do, but I do think it's intended as a compliment.

He just sounds quite basic. Probably after one thing as above. Sounds like he's just filling the space with compliments to win you over.

Either you are beautiful (at least to him) or it's a well meant compliment, just go with the flow.

Yeah, I was wondering if he was just after one thing, but also would have thought he would be trying to arrange for that to happen if so? We have been chatting for nearly 2 weeks and he has only loosely spoken about meeting when he is not so busy at work, I'm just thinking what is going on here? 😂

No, it's not. He thinks you're hot, and is probably a bit shallow. Does he manage to hold a conversation on topics other than your outstanding beauty?

Is there anyway I can ask him to stop/calm down without sounding rude or unappreciative? It makes me feel a little uncomfortable and I'm not even sure how I'm supposed to reply to that other than "thanks".

Why would you want to meet the creep? What he's saying isn't normal at all. He either just wants his end away or this is his usual way of speaking (to all the ladies, hoping 1 will get reeled in)

I have sacked the chat off for someone calling me gorgeous after a few days and not having met. I'd of definitely binned this guy for constantly calling me beautiful. Talk like that gives me the total ick, as I think it should. So why don't you want to stop talking to him? Already getting invested, liking the attention? Don't aim to talk longer than 2 weeks without arranging to meet, that's another good rule, stops investment. Says something that you still want to talk to him, and not in a good way.

I find it absolutely cringey when guys online talk like that before you’ve even met. And I was told a while ago it’s a common tactic when they’re talking to several women do they don’t use the wrong name. So they’re saying same cringey shit to everyone.

I have told men to cut it out as it’s very cheesy. Sometime are ok and others get really arsey about it. But it’s best to be open from the start if it bothers you.

Honestly sometimes they have nothing else to offer apart from trite compliments and get that gets very dull very quickly.

I've got a really bad feeling about this guy. Have you actually checked him out? Like do you have any mutual friends have you checked out he really is who he says he is? Have you looked him up on something like LinkedIn and looked at his professional bits and pieces? How do you know for certain that he isn't married? All this stuff about oh yeah yeah we'll meet up sometime when I'm not so busy, that's a big red flag to me. I think this is a guy who's just flirting on line and trying to drag it out because he's actually already in a relationship.

I personally wouldn’t type out a whole explanation about how you feel or don’t feel about excessive compliments to some fella you’ve never met. I would save that for later down the line, if there is a later down the line.

Maybe if you just don’t react much to them he will take the hint from that.

It's weird.

And this makes it weirder.
And has twice said xyz person thinks you're beautiful (mates of his).

Please get rid of him

If someone you barely know is making you uncomfortable with the way they talk/behave, that's not a sign to start telling them to change their ways, it's a sign that this person isn't right for you.

Personally, I would also find this a bit much; overly focused on the superficial, regardless of how beautiful you may be.

Honestly I think you should stop talking to him. If someone has made you feel uncomfortable before you've even met them, that's the biggest red flag there is. It doesn't matter what they've actually done, the point is your gut feeling is telling you something's off and you must always listen to that.