Divorce is on the cards

[Bananasplitting]

I think I need to divorce my husband.

We have 2 kids, aged 4 & 2 and both own our house (along with the bank! with different shares), bought before we married/had kids.

Is there anything I should do before I end the relationship properly? I’ve got some savings but not loads, is it worth trying to build up a buffer before I go?

He earns a lot more than me but my salary isn’t too bad on its own. I could probably get a (much smaller) mortgage and find somewhere big enough for me and the kids in a slightly worse area.

What sort of things should I be considering?

Sorry you are in this situation. It’s probably a good idea to get some legal advice.

what do you mean by shares? the marital assets would be split 50-50.

what would you do about custody ? Would exh want 50/50?

@Channellingsophistication we do have a deed of trust basically saying that his deposit is protected (although legally I think because we subsequently married that could be over turned I feel it’s probably not worth creating a hostile situation)

I honestly don’t know if he’d want 50/50. He really struggles having both kids on his own but his parents would push him to go for it I think, they currently do 2 days a week childcare for us

I would definitely get some legal advice then you can really understand what you would be entitled to in terms of the deed of trust. You would think that would change now you have children.