How to end a friendship

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Has anyone ended a friendship like this she’s constantly trying to compete and compare how her life is better in the way she does things. She tries to mother me or belittle. She’s lied about parts of her life leading me to believe we had similar upbringings. Now I realise we actually had very different upbringings and it was all a lie. She forgots what she’s said so I end up catching her out. 4 weeks ago we met up and went to Cornwall it was horrible was on edge the whole time. We are going through a similar life milestone and After meeting she’s been texting me non stop about it trying to make me jealous or one up me on what she’s got. I decided after the weekend to fizzle out the relationship but she won’t stop texting me I’ve replied but not as much as I usually would. Do I just stop texting her do I send her a text how do I stop this. It’s making me stressed and on edge having to talk to her.

Personally I would just send her a text saying you are clearly on different paths in life now and you are not continuing this friendship any longer, and then block her.

I'd just ignore her texts.

I also forgot to say her husband is my husbands best friend

Another of these mystifying Mn situations where an OP describes what she says is a ‘friendship’, but clearly dislikes the person heartily, because of behaviour that makes it clear the other person dislikes them too.

It doesn’t matter what to do to end this, OP.

@AlliumLake we where very close spent all our spare time hanging out until she changed. at the beginning I was telling everyone around me how lovely she was and how similar we are. She met my whole family too I really thought she was another version of me.

I think a slow fade until its low level. It could be tricky to get a complete disconnection as your DH and hers are BF's. Does she live nearby? Just become super busy so you can't meet.

Slow fade.........

Yes slow fade awkward if the guys are good friends

Just don't interact as much anymore otherwise it's awkward if dhs are friends and you end up being in the same place together.

The fact that your husband is best friends with the husband is irrelevant. You do not have to suffer through an abusive relationship because of it. Tell her you will no longer be communicating with her, block her and move on. Tell your husband you will no longer have her as a part of your life and he can take it from there.

Oh just tell her straight that you no longer enjoy her company so it's Goodbye, have a nice life, see you around.

Then block.

You sound like a barrel of laughs.

How do you know she’s competing with you if you’re not competing with her?

Slow fade given she's connected through your husband. Gradually stop replying.

You thought she was “another version of you”?

I wouldn't worry about it OP. Just let it fade. You might find both of you are OK about it.

Don’t proactively contact her. If she suggests meeting, just say you’re busy for the next few weeks. Then don’t follow up. Tell your partner that she is bombarding you with messages and that you need some space away from her for a while. Ask him not to organise whole family activities that might involve you spending your leisure time with her.

Everyone around me has said that she is if I do something she will have a story of how she’s done the similar but better. I buy something she then has to get the better version or what she thinks is the better version. If I do something she’s then doing the same thing. It’s actually really hurt me as the person I thought I was becoming friends with isn’t the same. It almost feels like a break up when you realise the guy you were seeing isn’t who you thought he was. We were so close but the amount of lies I’ve caught her out in I don’t feel it’s a genuine friendship I can’t trust what she’s telling me. Also some of
the things she’s said to me haven’t been nice at all and if she’s happy to say these things to my face what is she saying behind my back. She was awful a few weeks ago about someone else and I got all defensive and said that what she said was out of order but she wasn’t the least bit bothered. I’ve decided to keep her at arms length we live a distance away now as she moved to Scotland so I will just fade out the texting her back to nothing and hope she gets the hint.

Just block her 🤷🏻‍♀️