I'm probably crazy right

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So I'll just be honest from the get go , my husband cheated on me I took him back. And the trust thing is so hard to recover.

So my question

My husband went to his cousins party in London he came back and I noticed he's following a new lady on his instagram and she is also following him, now he doesn't follow that many people so that's why it's easy to see.

Should I be worried or is it because the trust isn't there that is why I'm feeling suspicious about it? I haven't asked him who she is as I don't want to start something up.

I’d be suspicious OP. Is he liking her posts? Why did you not go to the party out of interest?

Her page is private, I couldn't get the time of work.

Well he has previous for cheating, so the fact you are suspicious of this is his own doing.

you’re not crazy. It could be something, or it could be nothing.

however as he’s cheated before, it’s pretty disrespectful to start following new women when he knows he did something to cause you to struggle trusting him.

Sounds like he's met her at the Party but that's not to say anything has happened, but I would be equally as suspicious OP!

I'm so relieved with the responses as I was expecting replies saying I shouldn't be looking on his instagram and it's only social media.

He's actually unfollowed her now so he followed her on Sunday and she followed him and he got back yesterday and now unfollowed her. So it's put more questions into my head and it's the not knowing who she is , she could just be his cousins Freind or even girlfriend, that's why I don't want to bring it up, as I don't want him thinking I'm stalking his Instagram.

Odd to follow and unfollow so quickly. I can see innocent reasons and suspicious ones. I’d definitely be keeping an eye on his behaviour, phone use for a week or so.

Yeah he's always suspicious on his phone, literally his phone is never out of his hand. Always typing when lying on the sofa next to me. Can't even watch a movie without being on his phone.

Sorry OP but you need to end this. Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? Checking with strangers on the internet whether you're right or wrong about his movements.

Op, I'm so sorry. You are not crazy. Cheaters cheat. You took him back once and now he's at it again. Don't take him back this time. He's not worth it.

Is she fit or ugly?

Op, he cheated on you and you took him back. Why wouldn't he cheat again?

You know that you are not crazy.

You have just become accustomed to his shitty behaviour.

if you have no kids, just get rid.

He's a cheater, so you would be an idiot to blindly trust him. The only way to build trust is for you to have access to his insta and phone etc. until he has proven his trustworthiness over a substantial amount of time. his loss of privacy is the price he has to pay for cheating, and it is the only way he can rebuild trust.

So the fact you are afraid he will say you were 'stalking' his IG is a really bad sign. He doesn't want to re-build trust, he just wants to press the reset button with no cost to him, only to you. Which is a sign of a man who will cheat again.

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No, you're not crazy to worry, suspect.
You're crazy is you don't address it.