How do you block your husband out of your mind/life whilst living with him?

[LostandConfused6]

Husband dragging me down emotionally but I cant afford to leave and we’re both in debt as well so I want to help clear the debt before leaving. I just want his mood swings not to annoy me and bring me down.
the problem is I still care about him too much and I don’t want that. I want to carry on with my life (co-habit) ignore his mood swings and be the happy carefree girl I am.
I find it hard to accept him in my space. How would you tackle that? Like we have a small kitchen, every time he comes to “help” me I have to leave the kitchen. I feel like he’s in the way and I don’t like his presence in my space.

You've already split up in your head and he doesn't know it. I know you say you can't afford to split yet, but this is basically the source of your problem.

Practically, try and spend more time out of the house.

It's extremely hard and if you are at all empathetic you will likely find it impossible to stop his moods from affecting you. All I can suggest is spending as little time in his presence as possible.

Start an early morning exercise / journalling / reading routine and get up two hours before him. Go to bed early too.

Start cooking meals he won't like / adopt a special diet.

Go out as much as possible. When you're at home, put headphones in and listen to music/podcasts constantly (or pretend to).

It may help to look up some 'psychic shielding' exercises and practice them regularly, like imagining yourself enveloped in a white bubble with his negative words and emotions bouncing off it.

You can also try being super-direct about it. "Brian, I find it really hard to stay in a positive mood when you are being negative. I'm afraid I'm going to have to give myself a break and go to the bedroom to read now."

Also, get a second job. This will solve two problems at once.