To text plumber

[Animals2024]

Hi

I had a plumber come to my house the other day, extremely kind and helpful. Basically I really fancied him. Would it be strange to text him to say thanks for the job he did in the hope he might reply?

Don't harass him

I agree with this. If you're going to text him, you need to actually make it known you're interested. A simple "thank you" is too indirect.

I don't really agree with the replies saying it's inappropriate. How is anyone supposed to ask anyone out these days? Even if the genders were reversed, I don't think a simple "if you fancy a drink let me know" is creepy or sleazy. If the recipient isn't interested they can just ignore it.

Did you manage to make conversation with him while he sorted your pipes out? Or is it just his looks and that he was a man doing something for you - albeit paid?

To be honest, men and women I find react differently to this sort of thing.

Men are normally flattered, don’t over think it. And it’s yes or no.

women are flattered if they fancy the guy. If they think they are out of his league, they feel offended.

Have you not been on MN long? The amount of threads from women complaining that a man smiled at them in passing or complimented them and the pitch folks are out!

In fact there was a thread were a tradie texted a woman after a job and everyone encouraged her to report him to his boss- poor guy!

No this is not appropriate same if he texted a female

The issue is, if you directly ask him out and he says no or ignores you then you would have to find another plumber. If I were you I don't think I would do it without at least trying to find out if he's single. I would also want to have felt some sort of interest from him too.

Absolutely fine to text him. Some of these answers are ridiculous 🙄

Like someone else said, nothing fancy, just thanks and wondered if he fancies going for a drink some time.

It's not harrassment to ask one time ffs. He'll be flattered whether or not he takes you up on it.

It’s not really a huge price to pay is it.,finding another plumber,,,

Its absolutely crackers how scared some people are. Just shoot your shot. Worst he can say is no.

Message him and tell him you have found a wet patch and can he have a look at it ? 😂

...and can he show you a ballcock?

An uncontrollable dripping................

It’s fine to text him and say thanks for a good job

Inappropriate to hit on him , no one should have to customers doing that, don’t matter if you are on the tools are working in Tesco, a woman wouldn’t want it so why should a man, equality works both ways you know

Your joking, decent trades are like rocking horse shit these days

I’ve some really good plumbers round my way and never struggled.

Lucky you

Did he reply?

I can’t think of a single mate who’s a tradesman who would be bothered by a text asking them if they fancied a coffee/drink after a job.

The single ones would probably say yes the. Married/coupled ones would be buzzing and say thanks but no.

We are that simple!!

Go for it!!

No. It's inappropriate

I posted a thread of my own on Saturday just gone, totally massive crush on the guy painting my house, I text him on the Friday night to tel him 😳 Didn't hear anything by the next morning so felt mortified! Anyway he replied and said we'd stay in touch/go for a drink etc and facing him on the Monday morning was nowhere as awful as I'd expected! Anyway we're getting on great, had another chat today and I said I still felt embarrassed etc but he really didn't mind and reaffirmed we'd definitely be staying in touch and going out! Happy days! No risk no reward I say!

Message him, pretty sure at the very least it would be an ego boost for him so you have nothing to lose.

If it seemed that he fancied you too, then yes. If there were no signals from him, then no.

Go for it, you've nothing to lose!

I’d be strategic and say ‘My relative is looking for a plumber - is it okay to recommend you? (I’m not sure of your current workload so wanted to check first.)

It’s hard to find decent trades people and I was very happy with your work. Plus you seemed like a nice guy and which also counts for a lot!’

Then just start a conversation naturally and try and tie in something related to what you talked about whilst he was at your house.