Husband smoking weed around sisters her friend

[annieb1863]

Would this bother you? I am out of town and husband has gone other to his sisters house as his uncle is staying there. I know I have no place to tell him not to to and didn’t have an issue whatsoever but then he said his sisters (single) friend is also over and they are all having dinner and I know for a fact smoking weed. Weed lowers inhibitions a bit like alcohol I suppose I don’t smoke and don’t agree with it but for medical reasons my partner does regularly. No judgement on this please but more the fact am I wrong for getting annoyed? Would you really want a single girl out around your husband without you? I do trust my husband just don’t like the idea of drinks and smokes in a small intimate environment without me I suppose. His dad and sisters partner are also there.
would a good compromise just be to go for dinner and not drink and smoke because that’s what I was kind of thinking? Or am I just plain insane :D

It’s not a drug that makes you all sexy. They’ll probably just be giggling at nonsense or stuck to the sofas in a haze.

@OriginalUsername2 i know but even that he’s usually a moody twat haha and to think he’s laughing and joking all happy with his sister and her friend kind of irritates me..

I’m sorry, I think a wee bit insane. He’s either trustworthy or he’s not. Telling him what he’s allowed to do or not when you’re not there, is the insane part. I’m hoping you wouldn’t like to receive the same controlling behaviour from him? Most coupled up partners are around single people all the time. But perhaps you have other reasons to suspect him, which is another story.

If you truly trusted him then you wouldn't be thinking he might end up shagging someone just because of a smoke.

His sister and uncle are there, which is also not a sexy situation.

Honestly, life is too short to worry about this stuff. If he’s going to cheat, he’ll find a way no matter what. Focus on you and what you want. If you don’t want to be with a stoner who hangs out with single women when you’re away then dump him for someone better. The only thing you can control are your own actions.

Damn those single women, going out around married and partnered up men… burn the witch(es).

EDIT * I think I’m more concerned about the connection he will have with this woman whilst high. We are going through a rough patch and are struggling with our connection and the thought of him being high laughing and connecting with another woman really irritates me. No I don’t think he is going to shag anyone thoug.

@Nosleepforthismum he of course says so am I telling him that he can’t go to his sisters house whilst I’m out of town…

A married man can’t be in a room with a single woman? He can’t get out much.

What makes you think this single girl will even want your stoned husband?

You need to fix your relationship with your DH if you feel that way then. Work on that, since you can't stop him being in the same room as other people. That sounds harsh but if you feel like that then you're focussing on the wrong thing.

It sounds like you don't actually trust him, OP, despite your saying that you do.

Or is it literally the fact that he'll be relaxing and enjoying himself, when you're at home and thinking over the recent rough patch?

Either way, maybe you need some joint counselling, to get these issues resolved.

Either you trust him or you don’t. He’s very unlikely to over there having sex in front of his family.

@TheShellBeach probably the latter. Because he never worries about stuff like that when weed is involved.

I don't think it's anything to do with the weed, I think it's purely because there's another girl (presume you mean woman) there and you don't trust him.

Ah, I see. That's very frustrating for you.
Would be go to counselling?

I think the problem is that you're with a moany twat who you're in an unhappy relationship with, not that he's at a family gathering with a friend attached.

Would you really want a single girl out around your husband without you?

I wouldn't give a shit.

You cant tell your husband to never be around single women 😆

He is probably going to care more about what snacks they have than the woman anyway, stop being so controlling

Is he Brad Pitt? (Insert any other heartthrob here). Just because there's weed and she's single doesn't mean she's going to jump him.

You sound very, very controlling.

You have zero trust. This relationship is over.