Does any of this sound remotely normal?

[IamaRevenant]

I think i know what the answer is but my perspective is so screwed I could do with some reassurance. Sorry for anyone who's seen any posts from me before!

I was taken out of school at 13 and moved to another country, no school until i took myself there on my own funds. My parents then encouraged me to move to yet another country into a squat (on my own, at 16. With drug dealers living in the place and i was raped twice). My sis was ditched in Morocco at age 16 too with a man twice her age who was a drug dealer in his bus.

My parents were part of the whole convoy/traveller thing but surely there are basic rules of parenting??

The reason I'm asking is because they're trying to justify. Apparently, I had a great time getting raped and plyed with drugs in a squat in Holland at 16

Your parents were neglectful and an utter disgrace. No room for debate at all. I wouldn't discuss it with them, if they couldn't see it then they won't see it now!

The best thing about being an adult is that you can decide who you have relationships with. Cut them off and go NC.

There is no justifying your parents’ treatment of you and your sister. They should face prosecution.
I hope you can access some counselling so you can allow yourself to cut them out of your life.
So very sorry that was your childhood. Wishing you the best for your future.

I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. What your parents did was neglectful, and it sounds like they were lacking in understanding about child development.
Freedom as an adult can be great. Children need boundaries and they need to be kept safe. Doing so while living an alternative/anti establishment lifestyle takes skill and commitment and it sounds like your parents lacked both.

I suspect that your parents are in denial - accepting your truth would mean accepting that they screwed up, and that those who disagreed with their choices (it's likely they'll have heard a lot of dissenting voices over the years) were correct.

Wow! They are horrible! No, it is not normal. I would distance myself from these toxic people. I'm so sorry you went through that, and your sister as well. It sounds like they pimped her out to that guy.

You know it’s not normal. You know it’s not okay. I really hope you have found yourself a therapist who specialises in C-PTSD. I highly recommend EDMR therapy for this if you haven’t. It’s hard to find, but it helps you work on specific triggers and responses to desensitize yourself quickly and effectively. I have done this myself and it works. (I find talking therapy gets you stuck in a loop of retraumatizing after a while.)

criminal neglect

Not remotely normal. I am so sorry. I hope you can find some support to work through this and find some peace and healing. You may want to limit your contact with parents in the meantime. Good luck.