Hi anyone , I’m looking for some good advice on how to move forward with this problem , long story short , husband and I have been married for 30 years not going to lie it’s been a hard life with debts etc but we have made it work somehow , we also have one daughter who’s an adult now but we had a hellish time conceiving , someone at my wedding gave me a card saying i hope all your troubles are little ones and by god it was true , everything else that happened in the last 30 years was a walk in the park compared to having a baby .
Like most men my husband buried his head in the sand and didn’t want to discuss the situation with me and withdrew from me in the only way he knew which was to never come near me so we stopped having sex I pleaded and begged him not to do this too me his response was to Verbally and mentally abuse me , I told no one what was going on family and friends all thought we were a golden couple and our time to be parents would happen but it never did and this went on for years , it wore me down I felt depresses I told him how I felt and his responce was to tell me he would have me sectioned if I didn’t pull myself together, still no one knew what was happening behind closed doors then it happened I finally got pregnant and managed to stay pregnant and our lives seemed to be complete again but I vowed to myself that he would never treat me like that again and to be fair it didn’t happen again but the damage was done I have switched off to his needs and dedicated my life to raising my daughter , I was never able to have any more children I have accepted it now but it took a long time . The problem is I have no interest in sex with my husband or with any man , he on the other hand now wants to have sex with me like nothing happened all those years ago and I just can’t , I cringe every time he even touches me we haven’t had sex for 5 years and if I’m being honest I never want to again , we have tried to talk about what happened he has apologised for his behaviour and wishes he could turn the clock back but for me the damage has been done and I remember thinking when I was at my lowest point in my life promising myself that he will never be allowed to touch me again , I feel as if I’m punishing him but what he did was unforgivable, sorry for the long story and thanks of you have managed to make it to the end , any advice on how to move forward would be greatly appreciated xx many thanks