friends with benefits

[dannycrazy31]

I have been single now for 5 years and missing a intimate relationship. I really would love to be in a friends with benefits relationship. but don't know where to start?

Well, have you tried dating apps? I think the key to FWB is to know exactly what you want from it and have very clear boundaries.

For example, many people date casually but are "open" to something more, and this very rarely works. FWB works best when both people involved know that they only want something casual.

As an example of boundaries, I wouldn't spend hours at night messaging a FWB. I don't make girlfriend level effort for something casual. You don't have to be fully detached, but you have to know exactly what your boundaries are so that the line between "casual" and "relationship" doesn't become blurred.

Do you think you can have a sexual relationship with someone without any emotional involvement or exclusivity? If no, then FWB is going to get you hurt. Personally, I can't do it although I know there's plenty of other guys who feel differently. But if you can deal with being a bit on the side and see him in the same way, shouldn't be too difficult to find someone to scratch that particular itch 😁

Go OLD with your intentions and you will have no shortage of penis literally queuing up.

There's issues with trying to find this via OLD. For one, you will get guys who only intend to sleep with you once and you'll never hear from them again. If you're ok with that then obviously that's fine but you have to be aware of it. Or they contact you when they want sex. If you contact them they will often be "busy". Which can make you feel like an unpaid sex worker. Then there are the obvious safety issues.

At one point in my life I was open to the idea of FWB but the issues above are what stopped me. I think for me it would only work if it was someone I was friends with in the first place. I think you still need a level of trust for an FWB relationship. With strangers online you won't have that.

@DancingLions so how do you go from friends with someone you've know for years to suddenly screwing them? I think thats more whats being asked.

Don't sell yourself short OP.

I’m probably being pedantic but to me FWB is when two people who are already friends introduce sex into that relationship. There is already trust and each understands the other and what to expect.

When you look for casual sex OLD you’ll get a fuck buddy. Fucking is the point and you won’t be friends because the point is sex without strings ie emotional attachment at any level - even friendship. You might become friends but that isn’t guaranteed