So I’m currently resenting life with my in laws. I am Pakistani and live with my in laws. I found some things difficult to begin with such as my MIL would always make a comment when I was going to my parents house, yes I go regularly, but it is my choice and my husband has no issue. Then she also wouldn’t want my husband to go out to eat to watch his weight, which I found unfair as a couple, so we would sneakily do this, I didn’t say anything to my husband at the time but I did feel like she shouldn’t be doing this. She likes to be in charge in the house. She did want me to do cooking too though at the start I didn’t know many dishes, but her and my SIL are picky was I didn’t want to. Anyway she does the cooking in the house. I now also have a child and who she does a lot with. But she was overbearing at the start and because I stood my ground she got offended and upset. She still gets offended if something is said to her, she thinks she has experience, which I agree with but I’m not obligated do to what she wants though I do often times, because in Islam the right to choose what to do is given to parents not grandparents. She is too culturally traditional. She wants me to do a lot more with my in laws than my family. I stopped working and she keeps advising me to do some work etc, though I do plan on working but from home and I didn’t take much maternity time, I also lost a parent just before going to work so I wanted a break. I just feel life here is without much privacy, though I have had help and at times help I’ve not needed, I do feel like I’ve missed moments in my child’s life because of over involvement. I’ve had a few arguments with her since my son was born, I am able to see when I have been rude but she can’t see anything she does at all.