How do you feel about this message?

[ProjectsGalore]

So - have been chatting to a guy who comes highly recommended by a mutual friend. He is in his 50's and in the process of getting divorced. We have met up and may meet up again soon. But, tonight amongst our chat he sent me this message "What makes me laugh out load is when women try anything on, they stand on their tiptoes and turn around in the mirror and check how big their arse looks in the outfit ???? Fascinating……"
I felt instant ick over this but can't work out if I'm being sensitive or if he is some kind of dinosaur. What do you think?

Why don’t you reply deadpan, saying:
“Actually, I think it’s more to see what an outfit looks like from the back, and how it would hang wearing heels.”

'in the process of getting divorced.'

My advice is don't date anyone in the process of getting a divorce. Wait until they are divorced.

I wouldn’t like it.

Yes this would also give me the ick.

So he tells a woman that he laughs at women doing a normal woman thing? What's next - laughing at women's hair or their make up?

Yeah, he's telling you he has no respect for women in general nor for you. He's pulled you into boys changing room banter to test your reaction.

This…
With weird typed at the end so he knows he is the one with the issue

He sounds like a tedious idiot. Who has energy for that twerpy, drippy, trying too hard kind of communication?

Let alone that he’s going through a divorce.

nope.

Now hang on everyone, she could be taking him from a rescue and some retraining may be required 😉.

That's a bye,bye,bye, OP.

I would think he was a total dickhead and I would have no further communication with him.

Im another one who says don’t date men who are separated and not yet divorced - not worth the drama

🤣🤣 good point!! 'how do you know, been peeping?'

This would bug me too. It's the generalisation of all women, the implication that we're all vain and care how our arses look, and the admission that he laughs at women doing non-funny things. There's something very condescending about it too, like "look at the funny little woman checking herself out in the mirror, how very fascinating". All in all points to underlying misogyny.

Oh please say this 😆

What @OnionPond said - bloody perfect response 👏👏👏

He's not yet divorced. Stop there. No need to waste time analyzing weird comments.

Well I don't think he is a smart man, and I wouldn't be interested. But lots of women don't mind men who are...basic. I would say it is a matter of preference rather than a red flag.

I would cringe if I had to introduce a man like that to my family and friends, but I have worked in places where he would have fitted in, and the women there might have liked him.

Yes, I would get the ick. But then, any man making weird, sexualised and/or misogynist jokes would give me the ick. if he's doing it on day 1, it's a clear sign that his views are 10x worse than this because let's face it, at this point, you're supposed to be showing your best side to someone.