been married to husband for 30 years, two grown up children. I’ve always worked, brought up the children to become decent, happy, well balanced adults. Good relationship with husband, the problem is his mum. She’s overbearing, rude, opinionated, selfish. She regularly insults me and critisises my home, orders everyone around, then questions you on how you were doing the task. the worst thing, she has been dismissive and rude to our eldest daughter, who can’t think what she’s done to upset her grandma. I’ve told her to ignore grandma as grandma will be the one to miss out in the long run. I long ago realised I needed to distance myself from my MIL which I have done, and cope better in the occasions when I HAVE to see her, but as she’s now elderly, she’s putting on my retired husband so much(he’s early 60s) and he’s struggling to keep up with her demand and expectation of him so occasionally I help out, this is to support HIM, not HER.
I want to know, should I confront her rudeness and challenge her nastiness. It’d make life hard for my husband, he and his sibling have lived whole lives with her controlling behaviours and find it hard to confront.
thanks in advance x