Do I call it a day with my husband? I’m exhausted from treading on egg shells.
my husband and I have been together since I was 17… I’m approaching 40.
I'm not sure if I’m in love with him or the idea of wanting someone to be in love with me!
I’ll be honest everything he does annoys me.
People think he’s a good dad but when it comes down to the reality of being a good dad, he is useless and he’s happy to leave it all on my shoulders. i deal with issues from the school and clubs and make sure they are where they need to be even if I send him to drop them off it’s because I’ve told him times and places.
I’m annoyed by the fact he doesn’t want more from life than he’s already got his happy to plod along doing his job doesn’t he want more for our kids? Why doesn’t he want to better himself?
I could ask him the same question or make the same comment on two different occasions and get completely different answers i.e. one day he’ll be fine next day he just blow up.
He’s not bothered about trying to start an argument in front of the kids, where I don’t want to start an argument in front of the kids.
The way the kids speak to me, him and each other to me is a reflection of the way he speaks to us all.
When I call him on his shit, he’s reaction is to be an eejit rather than sit down and have an adult conversation. And it’s Exhausting. He can’t handle any negative comments even if they are true.
I’m Exhausted by it all. I know I’m not perfect but I want my kinds to have a good childhood- I survived my parents spiteful divorce so I know!!
Tonight, my friend had planned an evening meal, et cetera round her house. But my husband did not come purely because I asked him why he let my son go out and about without checking where he was going, as a parent I don’t think this is unreasonable but he took it as an insult? And pushed the blame onto me when I wasn’t about- he is a parent too!!!!
It’s not unreasonable for me to ask him to parent surelt.
I truly cannot have a conversation with him if I point out something i
dont think is ok , to him he takes it as an insult and we walk away so I don’t know how I meant to fix anything when I can’t talk to him without him throwing everything at me.
how can I fix something when he just won’t have a grown-up conversation? He will rather turn it into an argument. I just want to talk.
Financially, we are rather reliant on him. He pays by pills because I didn’t work for so long whilst young I’ve not long gone back to work but it doesn’t pay much.
I’m a child of a divorce I don’t want my children to suffer emotionally the way I did and still do but it feels like history repeating itself.
But when you have a husband who will go to work, then sit for the rest of his time on his iPad or watching telly what did the kids get out of it? I think it’s more a financial situation for me now.
He has no relationship with his parents now because he let them get away with too much with without saying anything to them. Yet he can speak to me like a piece of shit over nothing and I’ve never done anything as bad to him as they have.
He has no relationship with anyone else other than my family he has no friends and now I’m thinking why doesn’t he have no relationships with people? Why doesn’t he want to maintain relationships with people? He doesn’t want to spend his weekends doing fun stuff but sitting on a sofa.
I wish I could talk to him and fix stuff, but it doesn’t seem an option.
help!!!
am I missing something