I’m pretty sure I should, but I just need someone telling me I should I think.
i have been friends with this girl for about 5 years now, and at first she was really lovely and attentive, taking a lot of interest in my life and who I was/what I liked. We quickly became good friends.
however, there have been a number of things that have made me feel uncomfortable, stressed and downright stupid at times. I’m honestly sick and fed up of the friendship and desperately want to end it. She tried to ditch me in public and made up a lie about going to the cinema by herself when really she was going to a museum, in order to get rid of me after she didn’t book tickets and got in a strop and wouldn’t talk to me for about 45 minutes. We just sat on a bench while she put her hood up and went on her phone. She gave me the silent treatment for about a week once when I said I couldn’t meet up with her. She also stormed out of a restaurant because we were almost late to a play and her food was too hot. We went on holiday with another friend of ours (we’re like a trio) and didn’t invite me and kept it a secret, until she confessed right at the end of holiday and said she kept it a secret because her mum told her to as it would make me upset. She keeps wanting me to spend money and constantly go out to restaurants because she’s a snob and doesn’t eat at cafes like Costa or Nero. Pret maaaaybe. She would ask, are you sure, are you sure, whenever I would say no to something, as if she’s second guessing my decisions all the time. She’s done some very sackable offences at work which I won’t write down because I don’t want to humiliate anyone intentionally and also it’s embarrassing to write, but it reveals something odd about her character. She walks around in her underwear and once topless in the apartment and hotels we stay at, which makes me uncomfortable. She will info dump on me and whenever I try to tell her about my life or anything she doesn’t listen or seem to care in the same way.
its exhausting and I don’t want to be friends with her anymore. I guess more my question is, how do I end the friendship without being rude or inflammatory? I also am autistic and have considered if she is autistic; she is supposedly dyspraxic and was diagnosed with autism at 3 but then her diagnosis got changed (?) to dyspraxia. Anyway, I can’t put up with her behaviour anymore as it makes me feel stupid and extremely aggravated. How do I end the friendship? Thank you