Is letting you down normal?

[Lunamolly3]

Is making plans with you then ignoring your texts or sleeping through normal or a sigo dispespect aged 4t4

No.
Do you mean he’s standing you up and not responding? If so just bin him. He’s rude and not worth your time.

After 4 years

We had a fall out and he said he would be round weds didn't come e Thurs didn't come firi didn't come and now sat didn't co r snd no message deliverd

Unless he has been seriously harmed then there's no excuse for this. Not normal under any circumstances. Wherever the background to your fall out, you should learn to accept that your relationship is likely over. Your OH is sending you a clear message here.

This is manipulation and bordering abusive. If he doesn’t want to see you or isn’t ready to talk, fine. But he needs to let you know that. Ignoring you for days and not turning up when he said he would is disrespectful. He’s showing you who he is.

Dump.

Pay attention to your inner voice, OP. It’s there to look after you. You know it isn’t right when someone is disrespecting you. Don’t let them.

He is massively taking the piss out of you and is worth NO MORE of your time or consideration. Just tell him he’s dumped. His behaviour doesn’t deserve any more than a text. Don’t let anyone treat you like this in future.

He will just say he was sleeping
What do I do?

This is 4 years into a relationship after a fall out of Over 2 weeks

Like I said, dump him. It’s really not that difficult.

4 years, sounds like its time to cut your losses

Do you honestly think everyone is going to say “ yeah that’s completely normal “. I hope you didn’t sit in waiting for him…. I would have been out even if I was in the cinema on my own.

So what if he says he was sleeping?

No-one sleeps for 4 days solid, which means he has time to be respectful and at the very least send a message.

He chose not to.

You don't need his permission to break up with him.

You probably do need to find your anger and your permission to yourself to value yourself and not tolerate behaviour like that.

Length of time you've been together is irrelevant. If he keeps doing this, you'll get more of the same. If this is the first time he's like this, I think it's safe to assume the 'fallout' was actually the end to his mind, but perhaps he didn't tell you, or you didn't take it seriously?

Sounds like he's blocked you

Falling out from time to time is normal. How he has chosen to respond to that falling out is disrespectful, passive-aggressive and unacceptable. Irrespective of how long you've been with this guy, I'd have just blocked him. by now for his bullshit excuses. If he really wants to get things back on track then he knows where you live and he could come and talk to you in person.

If he's never behaved liked this previously then you might feel persuaded to tell him that a second incident will result in a permanent split, but his current behaviour suggests he may have checked out of the relationship anyway.

I think you’ve already been dumped op. I hope so. It saves you the bother. What a peach of a man he sounds.