The first time I wrote this I said ‘we’ are in a cycle of falling out, but it just isn’t true- my OH falls out with me over tiny inconsequential things, and then we hardly speak and just tolerate each other for days or weeks. Last week he wanted me to show him a certain film. During the film at an important point he was distracted & I drew his attention to what he was missing- that was it. Silence/minimal contact for days, no affection at all. He always refuses to talk about it when this happens, & trying to talk makes him really angry. I much prefer to talk about my problems, but he never will. I feel miserable when he is like this, as when he isn’t like this he is extremely affectionate.
it feels like it is just more and more frequent, and when he is ok I’m just waiting for whatever it is that blows him up again. He is in his early 40’s and we’ve been married over 20years- is this normal? What should I do to snap him out of it?