My H is caring and pulls his weight with 2 disabled DC. He is a very clean man, isn't a slob, always cleans and tidies up. Does things with us, helps care for DCs. Shows a lot of love for me and DC
But he has anxiety issues and self medicated with alcohol. Once a week, usually, he will drink in the evening and then have a horrible mood the next day. During the week, he doesn't do this. And if he does, he won't at the weekend
The alcohol he drinks isn't loads, well at least less than what I hear most dependent drinkers have. It's about 2 glasses of JD and coke. And a beer or 2
He takes Sertraline tablets but they only do so much.
He never says anything horrible. But he's clearly down in the dumps and difficult to be around. Irritated easily. It's just annoying
This then translates to him frequently missing out on some stuff with the DC because he feels like shit
I am getting a bit fed up of it. It is obviously having an impact on us as a family. The kids are very happy. But it then makes things less doable because he doesn't feel up to doing certain outings etc
Life is bloody hard work. We have it harder than most. It's difficult. I get it.
I have never drank alcohol (beyond a few sips or so). I don't smoke. So I don't really 'get' the appeal because surely feeling like crap the next day would put you off?
Also, it gives you a terrible mood when it's wearing off
It was a lot worse before. But it was clear it couldn't continue with the commitments he had and so it reduced massively.
However, there's still a massive issue
He did try and give it up altogether but found he couldn't then function is situations he needed to be calmer in, such as airport, family get together, seeing friends or family etc. He says the alcohol makes these things doable and absolutely nothing else works like it
What on earth can I do? I don't want to lose him.