First date?

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NC for this. I don't really date because I'm so bloody nervous about it all. Last relationship was a complete train wreck when it turned out he forgot to mention he was engaged

I've met someone online and thinking of going for a date, and wondering where to go/what to do, what do we even talk about honestly I am so clueless

This was his message (changed a couple of bits for anonymity)

Well hey…I’m not going anywhere and not looking to rush into jumping into bed with anyone. I’m happy just to grab a drink somewhere

No pressure, expectations, motives etc and at a place of your choosing where you feel safe. Hell I’d turn up early so you could see me before you met me and if I wasn’t your type then a text message saying that you weren’t feeling it would not upset me.

Go. I’m not seeing what that PP is and don’t think he’s coming across as desperate at all. In fact he’s being accommodating with a bit of humour.

At the very least it’s good practice to get into swing of dating again.

Please don’t let one opinion sway you, most of us think he sounds a good bloke

I'd give him a chance but if he has 3 kids his availability will be very limited (if he's a good dad)

I think he sounds thoughtful - and I think everything you relay he has said are green flags (especially about turning up early etc). Go along and see what you think. As pp says - just see if there’s a connection that you feel and take it from there. I hope it goes well and you have a lovely time!

What??? 🙄

Typical bloke, response 😂

I chatted with a man for over a week. In that week I realised that we had so much in common. I think it's important to go on a date with only the expectations of going out. Please dont build your expectations up, go, enjoy and see how you feel afterwards.
He sounds like he has your interests at heart and that is always a good thing.

Oh, I like him already! I think the message is sweet.