Has anyone ever gone through feeling like they didn’t ‘like’ their DH anymore? Was it a phase you put work towards turning around or a sign you needed to make some decisions?
For a while now I’ve found myself being irritated by DH and struggled to feel anything positive towards him. I suppose younger people would say ‘the ick’.
He behaves like a teenager and relies on his dad for so many things e.g. to do our ironing if the pile is huge and I haven’t had time to do it, rather than him doing it or even just to plant a new flower/any gardening or most DIY.
He leaves clothes, shoes, anything you could imagine that he’s at one point needed/used strewn around the house, the banister or the floor. He’s just set up a home office in the dressing room and it’s already got empty glasses and mugs left on the desk.
He rarely compliments me and there’s no sincerity. We rarely ever have sex anymore and we have a brief kiss goodnight, that’s usually the extent of our contact.
He falls asleep within minutes of sitting down on the sofa so most nights are lonely or spent in silence.
We’re completely not on the same page with parenting.
He is like a teenager on a morning with 20 alarms and still can’t get out of bed, then needs to be asked to make the bed for being last out.
I have a very stressful, client facing job that needs any interaction to be retained in memory and then documented before close of play. His job is very relaxed with no major responsibilities or timescales. He will stay longer at work, knowing I’m WFH, as he has done tonight, then berate me for not relieving his dad of childcare and to start making the meal as I’m at home, despite actually working.
I’ve had a really rubbish day today - emotive work subject matter and absolutely snowed under with finishing everything that I didn’t finish until after 6pm. As well as ringing me just to shout at me after I queried his finish time, he’s barely spoken a word to me all night and has shut himself in the office under the guise of doing work related qualification assignments where he’s been for hours, not before getting angry again as I asked what he was doing. He’s just come downstairs brightly going, ‘all finished’ as if nothing’s happened and told me to ‘f off’ when I wasn’t falling at his feet to finally see him. He is allocated work time to do these.
We’re both off work now as we’re supposed to be having a part of my birthday present, a concert to see a band I love, so I was really excited for that but I honestly don’t even want to go with him now and don’t feel remotely excited.
Sorry - I’m waffling, I revert back to my question at the start please. I just feel so lonely and like I have 3 children. I’d love to feel loved and secure and not that there’s got to be more to life.