Thinking about a man. But I am Bi.

[Summerwalksnow]

At 6.00am I posted about not sleeping. I was worrying about what to do about a man I have met. I hardly slept at all.
The most important thing about me is that I am a widow. We had 20 +years together, all wonderful except the last three after the diagnosis, in his final year he was in so much pain.
A deep friendship developed with another lady and we both helped each other. Adult children are now stable and sorted in uni/careers. I am 46. I was introduced to a lesbian woman as a friend, it slowly developed and we became lovers. Gradually we drifted apart. I have been seeing another woman, we meet, we date, we holiday together. I enjoy life again.
Recently met a man who I knew from work a few years ago, He is single, he wants to see me.

Sex with a man after 6 or 7 years and intimacy with women, am I mad?

Of course you're not. You're bi, your attraction pool is bigger than it is for those of us who are not. Like any new relationship, take it as slow as you need to - if he's worthwhile, he'll understand.

Try not to overthink it.
I thought I was straight for years. Then I had a thing with a woman (much to my surprise). So I thought I was a lesbian, especially as I was attracted to other women after the thing with the first woman and I also realized that I'd had feelings towards other woman throughout my life, I just hadn't acknowledged what it was because I thought was straight.
And then I met another man and was sexually attracted to him and I've finally realized I'm bi. Hell, it's taken a long time!

But what I'm saying is, if you enjoy his company and are attracted to him just go on a few dates with him and see how it goes. You can become more intimate with him if you feel it's right or you can pull back and end things if it's not.

Over the past week or so on the Sex Threads there have been posts that were really detailed and they made me so horny and longing for sex with a man. I am 46, it seems so trivial to be influenced this way.

Many women experience a surge in libido in mid/late 40s. Known peri thing.
Why does it matter what triggered the longing?
Why not just enjoy it. You don't need to prove anything or account for anything.
You are attracted to whoever you are attracted to. Labels are not that helpfuls.

Thank you for your replies. Indeed it really isn't about labels. At my age I think I am past being influenced in that way.
This has helped me think and decide that I will go out for a drink and a walk with him this evening as he suggested.
It is interesting and strange that I am thinking more about my late husband than my present GF. Even though I have never thought of his ghost looking over my shoulder. Perhaps it is because I only have experience of adult sex with DH. (I am not counting teenage experiments).
I will speak to GF on Saturday.

We did meet this evening, had a walk and a drink in country pub. (pity about the large screen football)
Sat in his car and chatted and a bit of a snog.
He is nice but No. No future there for me. Will see GF tomorrow as planned. No need to mention anything about tonight.
We will carry on. A couple of 'mumsie' women who get on very well, have our own careers our own families and just happen to sleep together, sometimes.
Looking forward to a long weekend on Norfolk coast soon.

your attraction pool is bigger than it is for those of us who are not

Urrrm no. This is a big misconception about bisexual people. We're not simply attracted to twice the amount of people. What proportion of people your attracted to varies by individual, but bisexual people just happen to be attracted to people of both sexes.

For example, you can get a straight man who's attracted to 50% of women he meets and a bisexual woman who's attracted to 5% of people she meets.

A short post to update.
The date with the man was quite insignificant really. When were were kissing it seemed my energy for more failed.
Saturday afternoon and night I spent with the GF. I did have full energy for her. Neither she nor I want to marry or even move in together. We just remain contented.