Have had a few issues with husband of 15 years lately. He has always been a very sexual person, his sex drive is much higher than mine (i.e. I would be happy with sex once a week, he would love it every day-multiple times if he had it his way), currently we have sex 2-4 times a week but went through a spell of 3 times a month when our kids were young, to every day last year when we were exploring our sex lives a bit more. Last year there were a few problems which ended up in big family drama as he was pushing for a threesome and I didn't want to but said I would consider it with another guy, instead a girl. He said ok but then when we were talking online with other guys - always did it when he was there with me, he got extremely jealous and I then shut the idea down before anything happened in RL. When we were though that stage of being very sexually open to each other he mentioned he fantasises about other women, some of which are family members (not blood related or significantly younger), I was a bit miffed but obviously I am under no illusion that men don't do this, plus is not like I can control what he thinks about. During this "phase" he also opened up and said he had been doing deep fakes of me to which I responded I am not happy with that and I want all that gone as the risk of him being hacked and photos spreading on the internet is high and something I would hate to happen. HR said ok and presumably deleted all, he promised not to do it again. The other day working together in an email on his pc, I noticed 2 folders came up with 2 of these females he had mentioned in his fantasies, I asked him and he tried to lie, but then I said , oh please don't tell me you are doing your deep fakes with them now. He said he's not hurting anyone and that no one will ever see the photos and that I only said to not do it for myself 😞. He says he is happy in the relationship and he doesn't cheat or talks to other girls, and that frankly he'd be relieved if I did something similar to him (perving on guys) because "I am just too damn perfect and holier than thou".As I said I am no under any illusions that others don't fantasies about people they know but this is a step too far and very disrespectful IMO. The caveat here is that we actually have a good relationship in other aspects, and he is never disrespectful in RL as in chatting them up or staring etc. He rarely goes out and he is "respectful" in other ways, but I think this is really an addiction to porn that he is taking too far. I am not sure if this is he hill I want to die on, if it's reason to divorce, has anyone gone through anything like this? Are all men th same secretly?