Am I trapped?

[Husband1984]

When I got with my now wife, I had a flat. She lived at home. When we got married I put the equity into a family home. I then paid off the vast majority of the mortgage as I have a well paid job. After having our son my wife went back to work part time (2 days) but took a pay cut to change jobs and earns 1/14th of what I do. I do all housework and most things for our son and work full time. My wife has depression (medicated) and doesn’t have any motivation to do anything or take on more days of work. We are struggling in our relationship because of that and some infidelity from her side.

Am I trapped?

If we go our separate ways, I fear losing my son, and half of the house, my savings and my income when I’ve paid off the mortgage almost single handedly.

If you think that’s trapped then I’m classed as fucked! All that earning potential, you can just start again, most can’t start again, you have an option, a choice, so you are definitely NOT trapped.

@Husband1984
I am assuming your fear is that she will become the paremt wh wins custody, and be able to claim most money from your abandonment. Frankly, this is far more likely than MN is going to admit.
But MN is a daft place to ask. You need a solicitor not internet strangers. An initial session is normally free.
I was in a similar position a decade ago (when MN was far less sympathetic to men generally) and even speaking it through with a solicitor was very useful.