Is this strange idk

[BePearlQuoter]

Hi so I’ve been speaking to this guy for 2 months now (we’ve known eachother for years just haven’t seen eachother in years) we’ve met up with eachother not alone but with friends just to have a drink and whatnots. He’s kissed and hugged me and one time my ex had come around to see our kids but then wouldn’t leave so I messaged this guy to say he’s come round and seems to not be leaving when I say . This guy then messaged to say “sorry I don’t know if I’m being moody or what but I’ve shown you I like you and he’s there now in ur home I don’t understand” I then couldn’t find him anywhere on Facebook after and couldn’t find his baby mum as I’ve seen her on Facebook before and was trying to look for him on Facebook but couldn’t see the pair of them on Facebook . He had told me he deleted his Facebook when I asked .

anyways we’ve met up again after that spoke about things been fine with eachother , we’ve been speaking every day really one in morning and once at night either by text or a little phone call , he’s helped pay for my phone bill , bills , and whatever else I needed. Yesterday I hadn’t messaged him all evening as I had been sleeping and messaged him at 1am to say “ sorry I’ve been asleep for hourss” he hasn’t opened my message and still hasn’t up until now and not sure why or what this could be or what is going on this is all confusing me I don’t even know where I’m standing

Chuck this one in the sea. I REALLY don't like that he has issues with the father of your children being in your home, just because he "likes you". If you carry on seeing him he will make things difficult for you, guaranteed. Under the guise of "I just like/love you so much" is "you're MINE to control".

Edited to add he's ignoring you because you weren't dancing to his tune. Expect he'll have a rant, questioning whether you were really sleeping or not.

There’s a few things to unpick here

• why is a man you’ve chatted to for 2 months helping you with bills?
• Wtf is it to do with him that your children are seeing their dad under you roof?

Far too much drama and control before youve even got started - bin him off and pay your own bills.

Why are you trying to look up the mother of his children on Facebook??

I have no idea I think it’s because my ex was very emotionally and financially abusive and the whole time me and this other guy was speaking my ex was living with me and not leaving the home so finally got rid of him and told this other guy I’m not letting my ex back inside the home again and then yeah

I don’t know lol he just didn’t want me being in debt with anything and because my ex was financially abusive I was just in debt with everything and he felt bad

Just too find him on Facebook as everytime I searched him , his account weren’t coming up so was just looking

Sorry OP you need to take ownership of your actions

when he offered you should have said no. its really not his place to be paying your bills, can you not see this would create expectations towards you?
he sounds toxic having a strop when you don't report to him

You know it's weird behaviour and that's why you're asking. Trust your gut, he's a bit nuts isn't he. Gets childish and ignores you and it's only been couple of months. Run.

Frying pan and fire. Kindly how about getting your own life in order first being able to pay bills etc without the involvement of a relative stranger? Sort things out with your ex and your benefit entitlements so that you are in a better position. Go it alone for a while. Work on improving things for you and your child. You have years ahead of you to look for another man.