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Am I being over sensitive or is my husband a knob ?

33 replies

alwaysguilty12 · 19/06/2024 11:07

Have a 10 week old son, he’s happy and healthy and as newborns go he’s a dream - honestly feel like I’ve won the baby lottery. My pregnancy was straight forward, we had a lot of house renovations done during and even though it was stressful, I sucked it up and got on with it all whilst WFH full time. Had a planned c section and again just got on with it - we went for afternoon tea 4 days after. I love my husband and we’ve always had a healthy sex life- we may have been a bit over zealous as we’ve had quite a lot of sex post baby. Plan was to go onto the pill once I got my first period which hasn’t yet arrived. We haven’t discussed having more children as such but naively assumed husband wasn’t against it ( I had suggested condoms which he scoffed at ) anyway - last night when discussing my lack of period he said if I was pregnant we’d have to have a very hard conversation as he absolutely couldn’t do this again. I’m furious as honestly feels like he’s had it so easy. I do the bulk of the night feeds even though he’s still off work ( 12 weeks paid leave ) and most days are spent with him watching tv cuddling our son or some sort of lunch out somewhere. We have a cleaner, I do the shopping and 90% of the cooking plus rest of the housey stuff like bed changes, general life admin etc - We have a lovely life with relatively little to worry about. Granted I imagine 2 under 1 would be bloody hard work but Am I being over sensitive about his comments ?

OP posts:
peachgreen · 19/06/2024 19:45

Nothing wrong with him not wanting another baby and nothing wrong with him saying so (I felt exactly the same when mine was 10 weeks!) but absolutely everything else you’ve said about him demonstrates that he’s an absolute prick.

xyz111 · 19/06/2024 20:00

This is where you actually need to have a conversation about it. No one can tell you if he's being unreasonable as do you know his reasoning??

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 19/06/2024 20:06

He doesn’t want another baby. Wether you think he should find it easy or not, he doesn’t want one and hr is entitled to think that.

However, he is being a knob by doing pretty much nothing at home AND about wearing a condom.

Though with him behaving like this I think you be a fool to get pregnant by him again

altmember · 19/06/2024 21:02

You had a c section 10 weeks ago and you've already had lots of sex since? That's pretty good going to be back in the saddle so quick. Chances are that you aren't pregnant again. But if he's so certain he doesn't want to go through all that again 🙄, tell him to go and get the snip.

dizzydizzydizzy · 19/06/2024 21:55

@DaisyChainsandSunnyDays by your logic DH's behaviour is either due to his mother's old fashioned upbringing or OP's inability to retrain him. I say his behaviour is down to him.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 19/06/2024 22:51

So have you had the conversation yet?

10 weeks in and lots of sex were the hell are you finding the time and with your scar that is healing too.

that aside he’s a knob for not wearing a condom if he doesn’t want another baby. Plus why isn’t he pulling his weight so what if he has a job he’s on leave to help the baby which in turn is helping you.

DaisyChainsandSunnyDays · 20/06/2024 09:31

dizzydizzydizzy · 19/06/2024 21:55

@DaisyChainsandSunnyDays by your logic DH's behaviour is either due to his mother's old fashioned upbringing or OP's inability to retrain him. I say his behaviour is down to him.

thats is not my logic, of course he is responsible! but if our partners behave in a way that doesn't meet our standards its up to us to voice our opinion, not just roll over and pick up after them& put up with laziness quietly.

dizzydizzydizzy · 20/06/2024 09:48

@DaisyChainsandSunnyDays definitely agree with you on couples should be able to voice their opinions to each other.

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