Flirting - how?

[AnotherPoxyName]

I know this sounds stupid. But how do you flirt with your spouse?

I’ve tried googling it and none of it really seems right, so I wondered what real life examples people have.

i married young so never really got proficient in flirting. If anyone ever paid me any attention I’d go bright red and run away to be honest. I never got confident in that regard. But winking at my husband and suggestively touching his arm during a conversation isn’t right either! And the blatant ‘you look hot’ doesn’t feel like flirting to me.

Hold his gaze slightly longer than usual, especially if he makes you laugh or if you say something funny or a bit mischevious.

Touch him as you pass by him in the kitchen, just a stroke on the arm or hip, or come up behind him when he is doing something that isnt dangerous or important (if he is glancing though a newspaper or mail ) and hug him from behind.

If 'You look hot' feels too blatant, try comments like, 'Your hair looks lovely today' or 'that shirt suits you' and see if he picks up on it.

Do you feel the need to flirt with him to get his attention? Does he flirt with you?

Flirting is about teasing, being cheeky, maybe some innuendo

We just haven’t ever really flirted. He is a naturally gregarious person and women hit on him pretty regularly. He flirts with them for sure and it made me realise I don’t really flirt and I’d like to. I can hardly walk up to him and tell him he has gorgeous eyes and go all silly and giggly and offer to buy him a drink (true story) so wondered how I could do it as his wife who he sees first thing in the morning with hideous breath and who he’s nursed through sick bugs and childbirth.

fyi I don’t mind him flirting with other women and weirdly I find their attraction to him ahem attractive.

Could you try sending him a flirty text to start off with? Sometimes it’s easier than in person if you feel self conscious