Does silence speak loudest?

[WeekendOffender]

Broke up with an emotionally sadistic ex a few months ago during a phone call. We'd been an item for two years. The final straw was a severe case of work colleague over-mention-itis, which I'd noticed throughout our last weekend together. Trying to broach the subject that Monday, I listened as my questions were deflected, minimised and absolutely belittled. I remember being spoken to like an infant, called a c*nt and hung up on. I didn't call back. Few minutes later a couple of angry text messages followed, I didn't respond.

Not a word since, I'm doing pretty well on my own. However I sometimes find myself feeling annoyed by that last conversation. Like maybe I should have let rip a few home truths on the way out myself! Next minute, I'm relieved to have sidestepped getting the "last word".

Wisdom or thoughts welcome.
Thanks

Personally if someone calls you a c+nt I think they know they've lost all arguments already.
You have won and they can't ever unsay it.

It sounds as if you'd benefit from an environment (therapy?) where you could let it all out safely? I don't think there's any benefit at all in re-establishing contact here so you can tell him he's a bastard.

He doesn't deserve your last word. Your last word is wasted on him.

The great thing about running the conversations in your head is that the other person says the right things. He wouldn't have. So channel Elsa and Let It Go!

I remember breaking up with my emotionally abusive and controlling ex.
When we met to divide our furniture, I asked how his mother took the news of us breaking up (I was fond of her).
His response was: "she hates you now. I told her you cheated on me and I dumped you" - this was not true.
He was baiting me into a power struggle and trying to regain control by creating drama.

I just replied: "okay, give her my love, will you?" and moved on with my business. Of all things I did, I know this rattled him much more than if I would have engaged in an arguement about the truth.
It's so much healthier to just let go. I did feel sad that she will forever see me as someone who cheated and there's nothing I can do - or I am willing to do - to change her opinion of me. But it wasn't worth my time or my energy.

Would it have made any difference? He doesn't sound like someone who'd actually listen to any of the points you made anyway. You'd only have risked making him angrier. Better to keep quiet and make a swift exit from the relationship as you did.

Yes, silence definitely speaks loudest. Go no contact. Block him on your phone, email and social media. Do not engage with crazy.