My twin sister and I are 61. Both of our families have been close over the years. Our elderly mum who we care for was involved in a safeguarding concern at church a few months ago. I took the initiative and reported our concerns to the church DSL. My sister was furious that I had done this and as a result, our previously fairly close relationship has been severed.
Roll on a couple of months and things are starting to be mended - joint texts with our other sister about mum’s care etc.
Tonight, we met at the health club as we had both booked onto an outdoor aqua class. In the pool I smiled and said hello. After the class I asked her for a recipe that she had made ( to break the ice.) We talked briefly about it and then I swam to the other end of the pool, expecting her to swim with me. She got out and sat in the hot tub. Then she got out and picked up her towel, walked out of the pool area and left without saying bye, I’m cold so I’m leaving….anything. Just walked out! This was the first time that we have been together since our fall out.
I waited to see if she would return, just to say cheerio. Nothing, and she had left when I got out of the pool.
I have lots of lovely friends, I have a volunteer role which is responsible and time consuming, I care for various friends and others and share caring for my mum too.
I’ve come home and cried. My twin sister , who has form for being moody and unreasonable has blanked and upset me. I can’t be responsible for her behaviour, and can only be responsible for how I react to her.
It’s thrown me again.
What would you do? How can I stop her from hurting me over and over again?