Intimacy related.

[Fouche]

Maybe s TMI post for relationship topic but didn't want to post in sex topic as I'm not a fan of the dynamic there tbh.

It pertains to oral sex. Been with DH many years and enjoying giving. Many years ago I chose to swallow. At some point I decided I didn't want to do that anymore and got rid of his 'product' instead. Absolutely no issues from DH with that, just wanted to point out these were always my choices and he had zero preference for either.

As the years have gone on I still enjoy giving oral but I have really started to not like him finishing in my mouth because of the change in texture.

He had a vasectomy many years ago and I don't know if it's that or his age but it's become much 'lumpier' (it's making me feel sick just typing this) and it really makes me feel sick.

I think saying this to him would be quote hurtful. I know if he said my taste had change and him giving me oral makes him feel sick I would feel sad and embarrassed.

I still like doing the act, just not the end.

Is this a thing as men get older. Or could it be a medical issue?

From what you've said about him I don't think he'll be hurt. If anything I think he'll feel uneasy if he knew you were doing something that you didn't want to do. All he needs to do when he's about to cum is give you some sort of signal. You'll both be happier for it.

Would using a flavoured condom help?

When bodily functions change it’s not hurtful or embarrassing to acknowledge it. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell him that it’s not pleasant and to get it checked out: semen changes can be caused by hormones or prostatitis, an infection or inflammation of the prostate gland. If it’s not a medical issue then it’s also completely fine to say “I used to like it but now I don’t”, without being worried about offending him.

Just don't do it till the end. It kinda means sex is over for a while at least ( depending on his refractory period) so there could be benefit to changing the dynamic before he climaxes. See it as a variation, it's good to change things about.
Semen can vary in texture it's true, I'm sure he'd be fine about it, neither of you have caused his change in viscosity so there's no blame to be had.

No idea from a medical perspective but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with choosing not to let him finish in your mouth any more. Sometimes I spit, sometimes I swallow, sometimes I’ll finish him with my hand or at the last second let him ejaculate on his stomach or into a towel or whatever. He never knows what he’s going to end up with and he doesn’t care. Sounds like your dh won’t either.

I'd just tell him. I'm male and can't imagine being bothered by it.

You've created a bit of a false equivalence in your first post. You're equating him not liking performing oral on you to you not liking having semen in your mouth. It's not really the same thing. If you told him that the thought of going down on him at all made you feel sick, then that would be equivalent.

I think most men are fairly aware that semen isn't exactly appetising. To go as TMI as you for a second, I've had sex with a number of heterosexual women who find the taste of themselves on fingers or elsewhere a turn on, whereas the number of men willing to taste their own emissions is tiny. Yes, some of that will be internalised homophobia, but mostly we can just see it. It looks like snot, why on earth would we want it in our mouths?

Trust me, if the choice for your husband is a blowjob with a handjob to finish or no blowjobs, he's going to pick the option that involves a blowjob.

Flavoured condoms for sure.

He should be fine with you trying them as it makes you happier and he can keep getting bj's.

I'd just tell him that your gag reflex seems to be getting stronger these days and the flavoured condoms are potentially your way round this problem.

No need to go into details about consistency of bodily fluids or cause any upset!

I’d say switch it up, rather than let him finish in your mouth, once you know it’s close, take over with your hand and have him finish on your chest maybe? Or wherever his preference is, so it’s still sexy