Pregnant with 3rd but split from partner. He wants me to get abortion

[Boymumxxxx]

Not long found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. My 1st child is to a previous partner.. my 7 month only baby and this one is to the same man. We have recently split up but I’ve found out I’m pregnant. He wants me to get an abortion and has said that he won’t be involved with this child if I decide to keep it. Really don’t know what to do. I want to keep it but want my baby to have a dad!! I also don’t like the thought of him being involved with our other child and not this one. I am thinking of the effect it will have on this baby seeing him being a dad to my older one and not them. Need some help and advice

@Boymumxxxx

It all depends on whether you are able to raise two babies on your own, really. This ks hard age difference even in a 2 parent family.

As to the man - he is just manipulating you so he does not pay more maintenance. In reality - given how close in age the kids are - he is not going to be able to just be part of one of the kid’s life. If you stand firm and not allow it. Which is very simple - you just don't let him see just one kid.
If he goes to Court over access to one child -
Court will make it clear that he has responsibilities to both children - and it’s damaging to the 2nd child to only have the father see the eldest.

Think about your current children.

if a man doesn’t not want a baby he doesn’t have to. Sad fact they quote being scared.

my personal experience is up to half of women where dumped by a partner can’t let it go and the other half want to play daddies to children not biologically theirs. A very odd specimen taken from grown men who the early 90’s ended up with not their children out of fear looking after other men’s... I even know people who went out of their way 10 years ago to never be parents who embrace others. And I’m sorry I think it wrong.

A woman would be the hated stepmother so why are men so accepted? ----

This makes very little sense?

I have this age gap between my older two children and it was difficult (I have no family support so your experience might be different). My dh is an equal partner and chipped in as soon as he stepped through the door but it was hard. In your shoes I simply wouldn't do it. You already have 2 children and I would focus on them. You haven't mentioned what you do for a living, whether you own or rent your home or whether you could actually afford a child. For posters to say everything will be fine is actually naiive.Ultimately the decision is yours, I'd just take the time to think how and if you could cope and what effect it would have on your 2 children. Best of luck op.