Don’t know what to do!

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I’m 8 weeks pregnant. Me and my partner talked about having children and in April he said he was really keen to have a child and we decided to get my coil removed. I thought I was really keen and we had unprotected sex a few times.
Then, last month, I started to change my mind and wanted to slow down. I told my partner and we decided to start using protection. It was already too late.
After a false negative test and what I thought was a period, I tested positive at 7.5 weeks. This has panicked me as it’s not much time to decide what I want to do!
I feel so panicked at the idea of having a baby right now and am kicking myself for jumping in too quickly. I think it was a combination of my partner being really keen, me worrying about my age (I’m 30) and potential fertility and seeing lots of people around me having babies. I can now see all the reasons I should have slowed down:

• we’ve only been together 2 years Whilst I know I want kids with him, and it feels like we’ve been together much longer, this feels too soon. I’m worried we’ve not had enough ‘fun’ time before everything gets serious and this might impact our relationship.
• my partner has a 13 year old from a previous relationship. I’m worried we’ve not considered the impact on him enough, especially with the relatively short amount of time we’ve been together.
• my partner is wanting to change jobs and go self employed.
• I have big regrets about not travelling enough in my 20s and was hoping to travel more with my partner before we settled down.
• im worried how I might be judged by work and friends for having a baby with someone so soon into the relationship.

I really don’t want a baby right now. But making the alternative choice feels awful, especially because I know we will want one in the future. I can’t bear what people would think of me too! Not sure I could live with myself.

Hi, I didn't want to read and run! My view is that no matter how keen you are to have a baby as soon as that little stick shows positive it's natural to have a wobble and fears. I had my DD at 23 and even though had been with my now DH 5 years, we had just gotten engaged and saving for our home. it still felt overwhelming with the realisation my life was changing and plans we had, career, travel etc would have to be on hold.

However, should you decide to continue with the pregnancy it doesn't mean you won't get to do all that you want, just may take slightly longer and new goals etc may be made along the way.

Whatever your decision, be kind to yourself. You need to do what is best for you. Take care.

Your hormones are bound to be all over the place. I think the idea that every person is over the moon with a positive pregnancy test is a fairytale. A lot of people are shocked and worried. I suppose you need to decide whether to go ahead or if you can chose the other option and live with the what ifs. It’s such a hard decision but I will tell you, there’s no perfect time to have a baby. I will also say that 2 years is not that much of a short relationship if you know you want children with your OH. Good luck OP x

Hi new mum here! It’s totally natural to have these fears. A baby will change your life completely, every aspect of it. But there’s no saying that this won’t be for the better. Me and my partner have been together for 2 and a half years and we currently have an 8 week old DS. I asked myself all the same questions. Is it too soon in the relationship? How will it affect my relationship? Can we afford it? Will I ever be able to travel? I’ll tell you it’s not easy, navigating motherhood whilst running a household and trying to keep yourself together. It’s really hard and it does test you. But let me tell you, for me it was so worth it. The moment you see little one’s face looking up at you with so much love, all your doubts disappear and you know you are their world. If you do decide to have this baby (completely yours and your partners decision, do not worry about other people’s judgements) you will make it work!

All the best with whatever decision you choose to make.

Thanks everyone.
I guess fear of what people will think is really holding me back.
I also tend to overthink everything so worry I will be overwhelmed either way and regret either decision