Your childhood

[Theneverendingcycle]

Hi all....
Is it normal to remember absolutely none of your childhood? In fact I remember hardly any of my teens and late teen years at all... my childhood was very chaotic, unhappily married parents, unstable jobs, neglectful emotionally and physically at times (always working) I moved out young and had a child young (17) and I remember none of my childhood at all...

I want to broach my childhood experienced with my parents...I've tried this before and get met with defence and brickwalls. I was a "problem" child however now I have a "problem" child turns out he isn't a problem at all he has autistim pda and adhd and I can't help but feel my parents wrote me off as a problem and still dislike me to this day....

Sorry feel crap today. Tell me your relationship with your parents? Not remembering isn't normal is it?

I don’t remember much. Mainly running upstairs to lock myself in a room to avoid being slapped. Very little apart from this.

I am one of five siblings and it's really strange when we get together and discuss our childhood as we all remember things differently. Partly this is because there is quite an age gap between the eldest and the youngest but there are certain events that one of us will remember vividly and the others have no memory of

I remember a thread on here about this a while back and apparently a traumatic childhood can correlate with having very little in the way of childhood memories.

Same, lovely mum and grandparents, hideous upbringing generally though with lots of abuse and that's all I remember. I remember 2 Christmases. One being ill and one being told off for something I didn't do. Apart from that there's hardly anything there.

I also had a traumatic childhood and struggle to recollect most things about it. It's like a big black hole with some small memories every now and then.
If I think hard though I can recall the traumatic events.

A common way of psychologically surviving trauma, especially in childhood, is to dissociate, which can leave no memory of these times.

Anyone on this thread might find the initial post on this thread useful:

March 2024 - But we took you to stately homes www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/5032064-march-2024-but-we-took-you-to-stately-homes

It's interesting you mention your son has adhd. I have adhd and have very few memories of anything really, unless prompted by photos or things. It can be quite distressing at times to realise you haven't remembered the passing of time. Adhd can be inherited - might i suggest it's possible this could be a reason for your lack of memories?

I 100% think I have adhd but manage it well alone whereas my son needs medication at the moment....its nice but also not nice to know I'm not alone and this non memory stuff could be down to trauma.... thanks everyone...