21/M here who’s been dating a F/32, I’ll give a brief rundown then give what I need advice with. I met this woman through college last year, we started in late August and by mid September we were dating. We started talking as she has multiple sclerosis which my mother also has and we just hit it off instantly. In February she broke up with me but we still seen each other 3 days a week at college and as soon as we started spending time together we got back together again. We tried the friends thing but it instantly goes back to romantic feelings for both. She also has past trauma from her childhood and ex husband who she has a child with but is not in their lives. The issue is is that she flips, we will have a month or two of things being absolutely great then she’ll block me or something and want nothing to do with me and it’s starting to take a toll on my mental health. This is the third time it’s happened and I don’t have any idea why she is angry. I’ve always been really open with partners if they’ve done something I don’t like or that has impacted me and want the same in return even if it results in a disagreement I’d rather have an understanding both ways so we can avoid the same situation reoccurring in future. Anyways my friends and family have told me to cut her off but it’s very hard for me. I really love this woman and we’ve done and been through a lot together and done a lot for each other. Another reason I keep going back is the health aspect. She completely cut me off for a few days a
in April and said she wants nothing to do with me then phoned me sobbing as her brain scan result came back and it wasn’t good and my instant reaction was to be there asap, I see her struggling at times mentally and physically and feel I’d be abandoning her if I did end things completely. What should I do? She is so sweet but also very emotional and being so close with her then getting cut out her life kills me. It’s like getting pulled in then losing her over and over and I feel like I’m walking on eggshells at times so this doesn’t happen but I can’t seem to prevent it. Is this the MS, is it trauma playing a factor? I don’t know and I don’t know what to do about it.