This too shall pass - I hope

[pancakestastelikecrepe]

Just that, really. I know it wasn't right but mourning what I thought it could have been. I'm getting older and don't know if I have it in me to take a punt, again. Does anyone else feel this way? Part of me thinks "plan your life, it will be rich, a life of value and volition". The other part thinks do that, but prepared to be lonely...

Has anyone else decided that a single life is their long term plan?

yep cos I just can’t be arsed with men!the stories on MN are enough to put me off for life

I have my kids (adults), own home, career, friends, dog, social circle etc. genuinely feel extremely privileged and not sure what else a man can bring to the table to add to that.

genuinely can’t imagine ever living with a man. Zero interest.

regarding the lonely comment. Trust me, and others will say the same thing, being partnered up most certainly doesn’t guarantee you not being lonely. In fact, being single means you’re free as a bird to socialise as much or as little as you want to.

@Jennyjojo5
Thanks for responding, means a lot.
I just cannot be arsed to make an effort, anymore

@pancakestastelikecrepe I totally hear you! And out of my group of single mid 40’s friends, the majority feel the same way too. it’s becoming the norm.

You're not alone. I feel exactly the same since my divorce. I've concluded that the kind of man I want is like gold dust, and at my age will most likely already be taken. All you can do is focus on yourself, live a rich life, and if on the off chance you stumble across an absolute gem of a man, then go with it.

@Jennyjojo5 that's good to know! Without sounding arrogant, I know it's not me - I checked, which in itself is soul destroying (fact I feel I had to)
Just feel if it was acceptable to have raised kids and have a life without feeling you are

a sad cow for not having a relationship - it would help!

@gano I concur - thank you for getting it x

@gano I've been divorced for 9 years and dated two men - the latter is the source of this post. I feel I'm relatively young but have come a conclusion similar to yours. I guess the key is not to look for what is demonstrably not there...
And to not settle, for what is...