Constant 'luxury' bragging on social media

[MealDealDreamz]

My relative has retired and has spent the last six months travelling regularly abroad and has had a number of really quite extravagant and luxurious trips. They regularly post on social media about their travels but the luxury is always so overstated it is starting to grate and seem quite distasteful. Pictures of huge plates of seafood and champagne at expensive restaurants, 'luxury' accommodation with 'private' saunas and 'exclusive' concerts and 'feeling spoilt/blessed'. The excess of it all seems a bit in your face and distasteful, given the fact that they know most of their own family are not very well off and their own kids are struggling to manage financially. I'm happy for people to have treats and enjoy holidays but the constant bombardment and in your face images and videos is so over the top. Do they have no idea how they come across? Are they perhaps narcissistic? Does anyone else have family like this who seem blissfully unaware of how they come across? This person will sometimes tag me and other family members in the posts if we haven't responded enough to ensure we see the posts! Any advice of how to deal with this would be welcome. I really feel for their kids!

Mute them and ignore

Don't let your annoyance turn into jealousy though

Block them and get on with life.

If people want to spend their lives telling everyone how wonderful and perfect their life is it’s normally because the reality is a bit shit.

I've got someone like that on my FB and I absolutely love it. It's my only reason for going on.

I'd rather see a lobster than hear about people's financial struggles. Or check in posts at hospitals or people still complaining about Wilko closing.

Maybe you could write a list of approved holiday hotels/destinations or maybe a budget that you think is acceptable?

Seriously just smile and nod and get off social media.

Exactly this.

Blocking may be a bit much for your situation, but muting or unfollowing would be good.

I like to see my friends enjoying themselves but if they were constantly showing off it would wear thin.

If they tag you, ignore the tag.

The tagging people is a bit much - but that's the only bit I'd find annoying. I love to see peoples holidays!

switch them off

@JustGettingStarted muting! That’s the term I couldn’t think of. TY.

They're having a wonderful time enjoying their retirement - be happy for them. Just don't read their posts if it affects you so much.

To be fair I do still miss Wilko..

It's the hottest topic on my Facebook because ours has never reopened as anything else. People are quite het up.

I think it's tone-deaf if members of their close family are struggling. And the tagging thing is VERY weird. You don't tag people just for extra attention, you only tag people if they were there with you, or if there's some particular link between them and the event. Are you a concert performer, OP? Or perhaps a lobster?

Whole thing sounds a bit braggy.

If you are jealous and don't enjoy the posts you can mute or hide.

If I can ever afford to retire to the level that affords that level of luxury you can be damn sure I’m going to be bragging to just about anyone who will listen, and others who won’t too!
It is cringey, but it’s a huge accomplishment being able to even retire these days and they’ve gone a bit… OTT. Just let them have it for a few more months. The novelty will wear off and just mute them so you don’t have to see in the meantime.
I agree with a previous poster about it being preferable to the “OMG, ABSOLUTELY FUMING” “What’s up hun?” “I’ll PM you” dog shite that is usually all over Facebook.

Yes me too; although I try not to go on about it too much.

The excess of it all seems a bit in your face and distasteful, given the fact that they know most of their own family are not very well off and their own kids are struggling to manage financially

And the real message is buried inside the post.

Are they your family, OP, and that's the real gripe? not that they're posting all this luxury stuff, but the money they're spending isn't being handed to family?

As other people have said - just mute it.

They're tagging you? That's obnoxious. I'd happily unfriend them and let them figure it out.
Plus you can block people from tagging you without your consent. Look at your settings.

If they need to tag people to "look at me" they might be wealthy but they aren't really that "rich" are they?

I would mute, put settings not to tag you and let them get on with it.

A grown adult needing verification from social media is insane.

Some people are just into all of that and they want to flaunt it (sometimes to be mean, sometimes they genuinely just want to show people). All of it sounds my idea of hell (fussy eater that hates travelling)!!!

This just hide them when they are on holiday it is their SM to share their life you are not obligated to see it though.

People who do this sort of thing probably don't realise that it makes them look like they have more money than sense.

Agree with this. I rarely use fb, but I've had the permission to tag feature disabled for years. Used to drive me nuts to the point I'd feel like saying "I'm not interested, why are you tagging me?"

They can post what they want, but you don't have to engage or make any comments, even to the ones they tag you in, which is weird. If your notifications are not already set to approve tagged posts before they appear on your feed, then you can change that. Then just mute them and ignore, without the need to block.

I've a lovely life (now) was pretty awful when divorcing ex DH. I don't post anything that might be too braggy these days as a couple of close friends are having a tough time. I try to show some empathy