Attended a first Holy communion this morning where the parents were split up but very amicable. It was really nice to see.
It got me thinking, my ex is very abusive. We have little to no communication and the communication we do have is often very difficult. He was very abusive to DD and me and the courts found him of this but still progressed contact. DD is 6 nearly 7. Never wants to see him and handovers are often not very nice but once she's there she's OK. She tells me she misses me a lot.
DD is very active and often has events at weekends. I don't want her dad there and I never invite him. She's never asked for him or asked me invite him but in my head I'm thinking as the adult.. should I?
DD does her holy communion next year and I'd never ordinarily invite him but wondering if I should.. should I just let sleeping dogs lie? Or am I doing DD a disservice by not allowing her dad to be there at any of her events etc. For context he doesn't pay for a single thing and doesn't know any of her friends or their parents. He's been convicted of domestic abuse and assault on several different partners including me.